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Old 02-02-2014, 17:41   #21
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She's severely depressed, Justin. Depression cancels all the nice cognitive thinking processes. That's why the depression should be addressed before anything else.

Getting stern and assertive is not gonna work with this one, and taking into account that yours is now your ex-wife, I'm not so sure it worked that time either.




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Actually being as how she is still alive...I do believe it did.

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Thank you all for your responses and care!

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My wife is definitely severely depressed. Has been for years. And she's bipolar also. She yells at me often out of the blue, and swears like 10 sailors. Often it's her pain talking. And her bipolar. She's on Opana 80mg/day. Opana is much stronger than morphine. Her body is used to it now. She's still often in a lot of pain. She doesn't want to take insulin anymore because she says it didn't work, and it made her gain a lot of weight, which she refuses to have happen to her again. She's currently 215 lbs at 5'4". She used to weigh much, much more than that before I met her 12 years ago.

We've got diabetic meals from momsmeals dot com coming tomorrow. Hopefully she'll stick to those. Even with a grandmother that lost her legs to diabetes, it doesn't scare my wife. I'm trying to set an example now. We joined the Y over the weekend. Hopefully I can get my wife to use the pool, since she's in too much arm and back pain for other things. The pool will strengthen the muscles in her torso and help her back pain I believe.

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The pool is an excellent choice, and I hope she'll be able and willing to do it. It could make a difference.

Don't expect too much from moms meals though - their diabetic meals still adhere to the ADA guidelines, and run as high as 60g of carbs per plate, so she's still going to need insulin. When will they ever learn?!

Does she take any meds for the depression & bipolar?




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Lchf. Moms meals are going to be insane with carbs. But your wife sounds like she's very intent on doing things her way. Sounds like something significant may have to happen before she wakes up.

Hopefully not too significant...

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She does take oral meds, but they aren't doing the trick. Her A1C is 9.7

She doesn't want to take insulin anymore because she says it didn't work, and it made her gain a lot of weight, which she refuses to have happen to her again.
You didn't say which oral meds your wife is taking, but Metformin is the safest, and most of us refuse to take the other drugs because they have so many nasty side effects including forcing the pancreas to produce insulin, and although they do help lower the blood sugar at first, they cause the pancreas to burn out faster, producing less and less insulin. Once it gets to the point that the pancreas can't produce enough insulin, the person is forced to go on insulin. They have no other choice, they have to go on it.

When a person uses insulin and eats a lot of carbohydrates, their blood sugar is usually like a rollercoaster with very high highs and very low lows. As for the weight gain she had when on insulin, that is also because she ate too many carbs. The more carbs you eat, the more insulin you must take, and the more insulin you take, the more weight you gain.

When I suggested earlier that if your wife was willing to join the forum, I'm sure we could help her, I didn't mean that we could help her with the depression, I meant that we could encourage her to take control of her diabetes. She has obviously tried to control it in the past but was unable to because she didn't know how. We can help her obtain the knowledge she needs to control it, and when it comes to diabetes, knowledge is power.

She is now willing to try momsmeals, that's a first step. She might be willing to either join the forum or at least read some of the introductory threads. If she reads some of the threads, then she might be willing to join. Small steps.

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I don't believe the problem is that she is stubborn.

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My wife has type 2 for 10-20 years.
She has been dealing with diabetes for many years. She tried insulin and couldn't control her bg, she tried insulin and meds and couldn't control it, she tried meds and couldn't control it. Even if she was eating a (diabetic diet = ADA) she still wouldn't be able to control it. It seems to me that she feels like she has tried everything, nothing works for her, the diabetes is going to progress no matter what she does, so she might as well give up. That in itself is very depressing.

I really believe if she knew there is an easy, fast, painless way to get her bg under control, she would be willing to do it. Just my opinion.

P.S. Sorry for the double post. Honest, there was a post between, but someone pulled it out from under me. But I must admit, I'm very glad they did.

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