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Old 04-25-2014, 07:35   #1
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I need advice on what I should do!!! My wife of 18 yrs. refuses to treat her Type 2 diabetes. She has had a total of 3 amputations & has lost vision in her right eye, due to gloucoma. She is also showing signs of kidney damage. She is in the hospital now, after her third amputation. I know her well enough that she will do the diabetic thing (resuming insulin) for 2-3 months, but will drift away & eventually quit taking it. We have 2 kids (15 &17) that are watching their mother kill herself. Each time I talk to her about taking care of herself, she becomed resentful & stays mad for days on end. We have learned to stay out of her way, when she gets like this!!!!

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Old 04-25-2014, 08:29   #2
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Very glad you found us, Dennisgr8 ... but very sorry that you had to.

Your wife is extremely lucky to have you on her side!

As you know ... all too well ... it's impossible to make an adult manage their diabetes. That said, sometimes we can find an approach that makes life better.

Having a chronic condition with serious complications is emotionally depressing -- but -- depression and brain fog are also common physical complications of diabetes.

Counseling may be in order along with meds, diet and surgery. Unfortunately, depression will tend to demotivate a person and sap their energy. Meanwhile, brain fog will tend to keep her/him numb, distracted and unable to carry out a coherent plan.

Since your wife is in the hospital now (and getting treated), perhaps you could talk to her doctor about having a therapist and/or psychiatrist "drop by" her bed. If she is not on anti-depressants, or if they're not working, this would be the time to add or increase those meds.

Please stay with us, and share with us as much as you want. We care. Please keep us posted!


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Thanx!!! I'll do that!!!

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Hello Dennis . . . sorry for this situation.

Shalynne has spelled it out so well I won't repeat. I agree depression may be the uppermost issue and dealing with it while she's now hospitalized sounds like something that could work.

Good luck to you, and please keep us posted, and thank you for joining us.




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Welcome Dennis!

I agree with the advice you have been given.

And I am going a step further.

As you said, the frustration and fear and anger and terror of watching this happen is causing terrible stress and damage to your children ... and to you. I encourage you to look into school- or church-based groups dedicated to helping families in trouble. Or seek a therapist for your children and yourself.

Yes, my situation is different but I am speaking from experience.

I am sincerely sympathetic. Please take care of yourself.

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WOW!!!! I am TRULY SHOCKED at the response I have gotten from the "Community"!!!!!
We do belong to a VERY supportive chuch, where members have seen my wife's health decline over the years. I really believe that she needs professional help. She has had self esteem, as a kid, & that have carried over into her adult life.
I will talk to doctor tomorrow!!!!

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Oh Dennis, your family's nightmare strikes a very strong cord here.

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I'm fairly new here so I can't offer any advice other than to say I was humbled and shocked to hear your story. You are in good hands here though and members here are willing to help as much as they can for as long as you need.

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I am so sorry to hear about your wife. I agree that treatment for depression is a good start. Also, she should know that she absolutely can stop the progression and be healthier by cutting carbs and adding fat to her diet.

As a start, be sure to check out this site:

Blood Sugar 101

It contains a lot of great info about diabetes.

Many of us here follow a low carb, high fat diet. It keeps your BG low and is heart healthy! Yes, you have been deceived all these years. Check out this link for more info on that. The Big Lie ยป The Blog of Michael R. Eades, M.D.

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Old 04-26-2014, 04:52   #10
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I talked to the doctor today about seeking professional help for her depression. He said that was on the bucket list, but she has some hurdles to overcome yet. They are planning to have someone contact me before she is discharged to set everything up.

Thanx Everyone!!!

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