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Old 09-02-2013, 18:21   #1
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So we've had an addition to our family. Long story short we "adopted" a young lady, just turned 18, from an abusive family. She's very bright and overall a very good young 'un, aside from some of the normal teenage issues.

So here's our problem: she's told us she's diabetic, no biggie there as we are all too familiar with that right? The problem is how to convince her to eat the same as BH and I do. Typical teen she loves her pizza, and chicken nuggets dipped in applesauce, chocolate milk, fast food, and pot pies. In fact that's about all she eats.

I'm looking for suggestions on how to convince her that the way she's eating is going to lead to lead to ruin.

Typical kid, hates to test. But I've been thinking of a "meal challenge". Let her eat a normal meal, then have her test one, two, and three hours after. If any are over 140 then we start to ween her off carbs. I know she'll resist cause her docs say she's doing fine, but I've seen the physical signs that suggest otherwise. If her readings are fine, then what? All ideas are welcome at this point.

(We also know her family medical history of D and have suggested GAD testing due to that and her age. Around here no doctor/lab does that as I've been searching for that for myself as well).

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I grew up with diabetes all of my life. Eating the way many of us on this forum eat, takes a lot of discipline and commitment, which most teenagers lack. I did not grow up eating ultra low carb diets. I did watch my sugar intake, but my parents still let me be a kid and as normal as possible. If you can convince her to lay off some of the sugary sweets, that would go a long way. Stopping her from going out with friends for some pizza will only cause resentment and she will more than likely rebel. In my opinion, my goals would be to reduce the sugary foods/snacks and if her meals contain more carbs than you would like, I would not press that issue now.

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Those are excellent points. And things I've considered as well. It's just I don't want her to think she can just pop more and pills to control it when BH and I both know there's an easier way. Well, maybe not easier, but at least a better way.

I guess it's a balancing act. So maybe leading by example is best for now????

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Do you think she'd be willing to explore Jenni Ruhl's material on Blood Sugar 101?

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I've wondered about that as well as seeing if she would the Atkins book I have. She's more into hanging out with friends/boyfriend and gaming. So not sure how to approach those things with her. She's only been with us for a little over a month so everyone's still feeling things out.

On a good note, she LOVES how I make coffee. Lol. 1/2 cup HC with WF caramel syrup. I make her one each morning and put it in the fridge so she can have it cold, like a Starbucks caramel frap. Lol

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Leading by example will always be best, if the examples are noticed by the young lady. Does she spend time on the internet? If she is bright, then shock value of some diabetic failures may provide an impression on her current path. No matter what you try, the decision will have to be hers to change! I remember how little my parents knew when I was that age and then for some reason they kept getting smarter as I got older... the things said in my youth seemed to make more sense as the years past! You may have experienced something similar!

I would just keep talking, teach by example as you seem to be doing, compare numbers as you mentioned after a food you know to be harmful!

Good luck!!!

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Also commenting on good food choices she makes, rather than ragging on her for the bad ones.

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If she made any good ones. Lol

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Is she on insulin? How long since she was diagnosed? Could she be on a lengthy honeymoon?

Hard to imagine that she's been diagnosed type 2, but then I have to remember Onaughmae - our erstwhile moderator - who was diagnosed type 2 in her teens, fed sulfonylureas until her pancreas died completely, and was - in her late 30s - finally able to be approved for a pump.

I think it's a must that your young 'un be tested for GAD & c-peptide, and if you have to go through an online lab, so be it.

As for hanging with her friends - do these kids ever eat hot wings - as in naked hot wings? Or perhaps grilled chicken instead of breaded nuggets? If she were aware of lower-carb choices than pizza, maybe she could occasionally mitigate the pizza damage.

BTW, you have my eternal admiration for rescuing this girl. You're a good dad & I'm sure your BH is a good mom.




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Is she on insulin? How long since she was diagnosed? Could she be on a lengthy honeymoon?

Hard to imagine that she's been diagnosed type 2, but then I have to remember Onaughmae - our erstwhile moderator - who was diagnosed type 2 in her teens, fed sulfonylureas until her pancreas died completely, and was - in her late 30s - finally able to be approved for a pump.

I think it's a must that your young 'un be tested for GAD & c-peptide, and if you have to go through an online lab, so be it.

As for hanging with her friends - do these kids ever eat hot wings - as in naked hot wings? Or perhaps grilled chicken instead of breaded nuggets? If she were aware of lower-carb choices than pizza, maybe she could occasionally mitigate the pizza damage.

BTW, you have my eternal admiration for rescuing this girl. You're a good dad & I'm sure your BH is a good mom.
Thanks Shanny. We are like all other parents and figuring this as we go lol

No insulin. Just met. 500mg 2x a day. So not much for therapeutic effect. Not sure when she was DX but t2 among teens is becoming more and more common nowadays ( and the fed school lunch program isn't helping that ).

We've talked to her about why we eat the way we do and the successes in things like weight loss and med reduction for us. But convincing her to try even small changes is a challenge, especially when she has her docs backing her meals. That's a frustration for another day.

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