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Old 12-09-2015, 15:07   #1
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Unhappy Frustration by how my husband is handling his diabetes

I'm by no means perfect, but I'm doing my best to do LCHF. My husband is listening to the standard diabetic diet no matter what I say. Yesterday he drank a quart of chocolate milk at once, and his reading shot up to 265. At least he captured the result and was startled by it. Hopefully this will change some of his eating behaviors. I'm going to try to get him to read the great links on he site.

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Gail,

I'm sorry but until your husband decides that he wants to change his approach, you are fighting a losing battle. As the old saying has it; you can take the horse to water but you cannot make it drink.

All I can suggest is that you continue your approach to managing your own condition and hopefully, by example he will realise that just maybe you've got a good idea. Blood Sugar 101 is an excellent site to start him with - but he's got to persuade himself to look at it.

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As John said, it just doesn't work to try to convince someone if they aren't ready. And especially for a woman to try to convince a man - they resist it like the plague (well, my hubby does).

The best you can do is to stick to what you are doing and share your successes without comparing to what he is doing. Perhaps... eventually... he will decide he needs to follow suit.

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Tell us a little more about what "doing my best to do LCHF" means to you.

Also ....... what John and others have said about your husband.

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I'm keeping under 30 g of carbs a day (been on Atkins), trying to eat mostly fat, some protein RCG. I appreciate everyone's support and feedback.

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How does drinking a quart of chocolate milk in one sitting comply even with ADA recommendations?

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I'm keeping under 30 g of carbs a day (been on Atkins), trying to eat mostly fat, some protein RCG. I appreciate everyone's support and feedback.
I think 30 gm is very commendable.

Carry on, and good luck.

We'll ride along with you.

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I'm in the same unhappy boat. Many Forum members do have cooperative spouses, but my husband is not among them.

I could not get that to happen. For the longest time, I believed that it was I who Did Things Wrong -- not him. We do eat very low-carb meals at home, but he'll still come up with the occasional starchy side-dish for himself, and when he goes out of the house, he often returns with cookies. And sweet soda pop.

As for dining out ... for the most part ... yikes.

In the end, I was forced to concede that cooperative is the key word. As in, I don't get to control everything all by my lonesome. And the more successful Forum members aren't even trying to control their spouses. Rather, said spouses, on their own, have come to want and accept support (even if it may come with a li'l bit o' Tough Love).

My husband's slowly, slowly -- albeit inconsistently -- doing better these days. I think this is because he does listen (sorta-kinda) to his doctor, who, of late, reads him the Riot Act. Aaaahh, but I wish the doc could offer good nutritional advice as well!

Me? I just make sure good foods are here, and I also drop the occasional (and brief) hint.

You're doing the best anyone can do, both for yourself and for him.

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Good advice from other posters. Keep focused on managing your diabetes and hopefully your husband will slowly want to change his way of eating also.

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