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Old 07-21-2012, 02:22   #1
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So I was out for tea with my mum this afternoon and she noticed my Medic Alert bracelet, which I usually try to keep the tag away from her sight. she asked what it was for. I told her and she asked when I was diagnosed. I said "in May". She asked why I never said anything before. I told her I didn't want a lecture from her. She said "I'm not going to lecture you. You know why you got it.". I said "yes, I do. But I didn't get it for the reason you think I got it.". I explained to her about weight and PCOS and how the weight (which I have lost almost 10 lbs) is a symptom and not a cause. I'm not sure she completely either understood or believed me, but now she knows.

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Well, congratulations! You've come out of the closet!!!!

Don't be afraid of letting your loved ones know about your diagnosis. You know it's not a death sentence, and no matter what others think, you know the reason why you are diabetic. If they think otherwise, just agree to disagree and move on.

I'm so proud of you though.

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Good for you! Not just for being honest, but also for standing up for yourself. That can be really hard, especially with family members. I've also had some judgmental reactions from friends and family, as well as medical professionals, and I hate that I let them shame me. You should be proud and I'm glad you didn't get a lecture, even if you did get judged.

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Good for you . . . and if, at some future time, she forgets her resolve to not lecture you, you're more than welcome to remind her of the original conversation! ((((Jormantha))))

I'm glad it's on the table . . . it's so hard to keep secrets from loved ones.




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Thanks everyone. It wasnt exactly a weight, but I'm glad it's out

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Thanks everyone. It wasnt exactly a weight, but I'm glad it's out
Good for you

Diabetes is a pest, but not something we need to feel ashamed of. Those who are close to us need to know why we chose to restrict what we eat, so they can support our decisions and not innocently undermine them.

I count myself very lucky in having a great supporter (and food gendarme) in my wife but I have also been quite disappointed with the attitude of several old friends who feel my approach is much too restrictive. One in particular seems to have the view that I should "take the medicine and live normally". (Ah, the bliss of ignorance)

Quietly, and without making a fuss, his ideas are ignored

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I'm sure you feel much better after telling your mom. My relatives know I am diabetic but I rarely discuss it with them because they just don't understand. I know it shouldn't be but this disease comes with a lot of guilt. We should never blame ourselves.

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Good for you. My mom has passed away, but I know she would have been outright cruel, about my diagnosis.

She had an internist threaten her with a SF diet, in the 60's -- because she was overweight. YUCK. And even then ... he did not say a word about starches.

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Hi all

I think personal attitude matters a lot. I was diagnosed with diabetes in 2008, but have refused to be bogged down by it. I am the first diabetic in my family history and my hamily's reaction ranged from disbelief to even black magic. It was a relief that my wife had a rational approach.

I do not know what caused me diabetes.. But rather than pondering on the reason I believe making efforts to maintain a healthy lifestyle will be more useful

There will always be relatives and friends who will guess reasons and suggest unsubstantiated cures

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I think personal attitude matters a lot. I was diagnosed with diabetes in 2008, but have refused to be bogged down by it. I am the first diabetic in my family history and my hamily's reaction ranged from disbelief to even black magic. It was a relief that my wife had a rational approach.

I do not know what caused me diabetes.. But rather than pondering on the reason I believe making efforts to maintain a healthy lifestyle will be more useful

There will always be relatives and friends who will guess reasons and suggest unsubstantiated cures
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