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Old 12-04-2012, 00:13   #41
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There are many of us here dealing with a multitude of issues. I am currently having a hard time dealing with all of mine. It is just so overwhelming trying to manage a career, be a good husband and father and deal with chronic diseases.

I hate to dump this on you all but I have to say it somewhere. Everybody I know is dealing with their own problems so I have been holding this in and told nobody yet. My wife doesn't even know. I have found out I have cancer in my thyroid. I go today to see if I will have to have my chest cracked to remove it. I am dealing with severe clinical depression and think about suicide everyday. I don't have a plan or intend to act on the thoughts but it is frightening in that I don't know if that will change. I have become non functioning at work and at home. I don't sleep but 3 hours a night if I am lucky and I cry like a little girl almost on a daily basis. I just realized today that I haven't tested my BG or taken insulin in over a week. I also realized that I haven't really been eating for the past week. At least not to what I am used to. I know it sounds crazy but I just haven't thought about it. I am always hungry but I just feel like it is pointless anymore. I am in another world right now. I feel like I am on the outside looking in. Like I am watching my life on TV but haven't turned on the TV in over a week. I really don't know where the time has gone. I am breaking out all over my body in these little bumps. My gallbladder keeps flaring up. My neck and chest ache from this huge mass on my thyroid and I have had a headache for as long as I can remember. My BG has probably been all over the place but I haven't cared. Haven't cared about much lately. I am just sad all the time. I have lost all joy in life. I can hardly look at my kids without crying. I avoid people at all costs. I feel completely worthless because I can't seem to accomplish the simplest of tasks at work. I feel guilty because I haven't been spending as much time with my kids doing the things they enjoy. I feel like a joke. I used to have so much drive and gumption but now I am a mere shell of my former self. I try to tell myself that this to shall pass but I don't believe it. It is all smoke and mirrors. I will never be the same. My life has changed and I will never be who I was. The best I can hope for is to at least survive.

So how do you cope? Do you find the struggle to be too much at times or am I just a pansy who needs to put his big girl pants on and deal with it?
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It gets a lot of us but believe me I do understand some of what you say, I didn't feel like a woman when I had to have my breasts of and no implants just scars after the radio I gradually got to feel a bit human. Double whammy my thyroid gave up had to have radiotherapy again. Thank god I just take thyroxin every day among with other drugs and am OK. You will get there take every day as it comes. My hubby says I am still me even if I can't walk,another story, full of scars need a huge pencil at least we could play join the scar dots at night. Have you anyone you can talk to even a Samaritan type group ask at your madic take care

 
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The Rev. Mark Moline is the Rector of St. Luke's Episcopal Church in Prescott, Arizona.
I googled Rev. Mark Moline & found a great video on YouTube . . . I'm so thankful you have such a good man in your family, David, and you had the courage to reach out to him.

I so get the part about not wanting to ask for help - it's prob'ly my worst trait - insisting I can do it by myself, and then when I can't, it just doesn't get done at all.




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You too? My worst trait and as we age, we need to learn better it seems. It sure made taking care if my mother harder!




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I truly believe God has put more than just one human on this earth for a reason. Didn't he create Eve to keep Adam company? Therefore, this was the beginning of having another to share with and reason help from. We are all here on this earth for a reason. Helping our fellow human being is probably the main reason. We are asked to be loving, and kind, and compassionate, and empathetic to each other. That is what I live by. I just watched a mob dance on a website called Godvine that was done at Walt Disney World, and this guy joined the mob flash dance and at the end proposed to his girlfriend. It was so sweet I sat here crying for two people I do not even know! But, it doesn't mean my heart still wasn't bursting for joy and happiness and love for them. This is who I am. This is what I expect from others. When kindness and love are not returned, I just say "God Bless" and walk away.

You have opened up a world of kindness, consideration, compassion, and love by sharing your life David. Not only with those who are closest and love you most, but all of those who have never met you other than on a computer screen. Do not ever be embarrassed by your past life, or your current situations. We are not placed here in this world to judge others. This is a perfect example of what you should and did receive.

Eat healthy, keep your chin high, and stay positive. Things are going to get better and you will get through this. Some days may be rough, but just remember that God never forgets who we are; He has are names carved in the palm of His hand.

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And just a note to anyone who reads my post or reply to rudeboysti...I am a person of deep faith, and I may reference God in my posts. I am not trying to impose my belief or faith on anyone...I am respectful of all human beings, all living things, and everybody's right to believe in what they do. I hope my postings that include anything about faith is not found to be offensive to anyone. If it is, I apologize in advance, but know that I do not judge what you or others believe, so please don't judge or condemn me for my beliefs.

Thanks.

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I truly believe God has put more than just one human on this earth for a reason. Didn't he create Eve to keep Adam company? Therefore, this was the beginning of having another to share with and reason help from. We are all here on this earth for a reason. Helping our fellow human being is probably the main reason. We are asked to be loving, and kind, and compassionate, and empathetic to each other. That is what I live by. I just watched a mob dance on a website called Godvine that was done at Walt Disney World, and this guy joined the mob flash dance and at the end proposed to his girlfriend. It was so sweet I sat here crying for two people I do not even know! But, it doesn't mean my heart still wasn't bursting for joy and happiness and love for them. This is who I am. This is what I expect from others. When kindness and love are not returned, I just say "God Bless" and walk away.

You have opened up a world of kindness, consideration, compassion, and love by sharing your life David. Not only with those who are closest and love you most, but all of those who have never met you other than on a computer screen. Do not ever be embarrassed by your past life, or your current situations. We are not placed here in this world to judge others. This is a perfect example of what you should and did receive.

Eat healthy, keep your chin high, and stay positive. Things are going to get better and you will get through this. Some days may be rough, but just remember that God never forgets who we are; He has are names carved in the palm of His hand.

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I intervened your message because I am asking if you believe please pray for my daughter in law and two babies who are in the Philippines a hurricane is due to hit them tonight, my son who came to see me is going back it is on path for Cebu and lapulapu pray god they will be safe I can't loose another daughter.

 
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Jencrafts, I understand what you going through. Yesterday I picked up my son and his girl from the airport returning from their trip to Koh Tao & Koh Samui Thailand. They had so much rain over there. I was just glad to have them back, especially after his ordeal last year with a botched appendix operation which had us all on tenterhooks.

May your daughter in law & babies return home safely. My positive thoughts will be with her and all the people on those islands.

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