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Old 05-22-2013, 07:54   #1
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Okay, so having diabetes is like having a new baby, or being pregnant. People feel free to have any opinion they want on your body, exercise habits, eating habits, and they usually assume they know what those habits ARE, and especially, what THEY think YOU should do about it all. Most of my friends and family have been gracious and supportive, but I've gotten some good ones, and I'm betting some of you all have to, so let's have a good laugh!

1. Across the board response to my new LCHF diet: Wide Eyed Stare, Backing Away Slowly from the Crazy Lady Who Eats Fat.

2. Advice from friend: "oh, my friend has it. You can eat what you want! Just get a pump and pump some insulin after you eat."

3. Response from co-worker: "You're 'health crisis' is diabetes?! Oh, honey, you'll live. I thought it was serious!!

4. Response from long time Type I co-worker: "Go get some ensure, some glucerna, and eat Atkins bars for 2 meals a day. You'll be fine!"
(No judgement from me on this one, if it works for her...)

But the absolute best, most wonderful response from my Credentialing faculty advisor --"Take the week off to figure this out and rest!" BLESS her.

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Bless your advisor, indeed! That's one bit of advice I'm grateful to my doc for, too.

Some of my other ... errr ... favorites:

"Of course you can eat it! It's just potatoes, flour and sugar!"

At a number of family lunches: "Over here, there's a cake and three pies (full description of each), and (opening the freezer), here's the ice cream -- real vanilla bean! Of course, we know you won't be having any." Only then do I get to see what's there that I maybe can eat.

From veteran diabetics:

"I just make sure I don't go over 200 very often."

"You might be able to keep it under 150, but its a lot of work. Don't even try to get under 100."

From my diabetes educator:

"We want you to keep your post-prandials at 160-180. We'd rather see you high than low. Oh, and please get your A1c under 6.0!"

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From my FIL...."i dont believe in medications. The doctor just tells you to have them twice a day and we eat meals (read: carbs) atleast 5 times a day. So whats the point going low just twice a day when you are high the rest of the times."

"Oh its just carrot betroot mixed juice. We did not add any sugar for your sake"

"I was fasting for religious reasons the entire day, so just had a mango shake for dinner tonight"

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one day i was having a really bad day with my diabetes, i was so frustrated and my attitude was even worse than the numbers i was getting, one of my best friends told me, "you have diabetes, diabetes doesn't have you, so don't make it think it has you." idk, it was a really good piece of advice. haha.

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I'm actually glad you started this thread, and I'm going to keep following it. This reminded me of a situation I've been encountering recently at family gatherings. Everyone seems to think they're an expert on what I should and shouldn't be eating. My MIL pulled something out of the fridge and then proclaimed, "this is my side dish I made, but you can't have any" in a room full of people. I hear comments like this constantly - what I "can" and cannot have from family members. It has started to crawl right up my skin. I just love how everyone's an authority on my diet.

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Mary- how rude of your MIL to say sth like that! Next time tell her "Glad i cant have it. It does not look too appetizing"

I read a doctor's article (cant remember which) and it said a very true thing. "Diabetics dont have to follow a diet. They have to eat in a way that normal people should be eating in the first place"
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I've also read that. It's really how people should eat anyway. I am just so tired of the comments at every family gathering. We have a ton of diabetics on my mom's side, and the comments are generally based on the particular diets that everyone's following. We have family members on low carb and a few on that balanced plate thing or whatever it is, from the ADA. The comments are typically from the balanced plate family members. On my husband's side, the comments run rampant, as there are no diabetics there.

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My wife's Rheumatoidologist thought he was starting to get diabetes after both of us said we had diabetes. He was telling us sure you can eat fruit it has fructose not sugar............

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Wow, that's just plain sad from a medical professional.

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2. Advice from friend: "oh, my friend has it. You can eat what you want! Just get a pump and pump some insulin after you eat."

The saddest part is, my manager who has Diabetes lives this way!
He eats chicken express breaded chicken wings; rice and beans, and then just uses insulin. He has the pump, AND he has the old fashioned needle and vial! Not judging, but I don't take advise from him.

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