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Old 11-28-2011, 00:28   #1
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Does anyone have any good suggestions on how to deal with holiday anxiety? I cannot speak for anyone but myself, but when this time of year comes around I wish I could just skip the entire month of December.

When I was a kid, I used to love Christmas. We would all get together at my Grandma's house and all 19 of my cousins were there. It was a lot of confusion and I know now that my Grandma worked very hard to make Christmas so special for us all.

Now...she is gone and so are some of my cousins. So Christmas just isn't the same. I began to do my shopping for my grandchild and was really dismayed to find that the price of everything appropriate for his age group has gone to the moon. What ever happened to Christmas and when did it become necessary to have deep pockets in order to buy a gift?

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I think most people have anxiety about the holiday season...I used to...

What I did was simplify everything...it's hot here so its cold chicken and ham and salads and devilled eggs...a few Christmas foody things like coconut ice and rocky road but that's it ...

All my friends know it's open house at my place AFTER their anxiety filled family lunch...so we have an afternoon of very happy people coming together to just relax...lots of cups of tea and coffee (coz everyone is stuffed full already) and we just chill out

My kids know we do not do crazy overboard presents...since they were small we always focused on making people feel good by what we could 'make' and that was home made Christmas cards....these days we make up goodies baskets...filled with home made things like rocky road and white chocolate crackles... Turkish delight and chocolate coated figs...candied peel and whatever else we decide to make...even though my son is autistic he has come to understand that 'giving' and personal gifts like our baskets are a large part of Christmas...

Last year we made baskets for the four old women across the road...they live alone and the two old men that live behind us...we sneaked around very early one morning and left them all ninja-like...my son enjoyed that lol

I know we cannot change the commercialisation of Christmas but we can chose how we participate...I had very bad memories of holidays as a child...I was determined that not happen to my kids...and it feels good to know that is true

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I used to HATE Christmas, but now I am okay with it, but will probably hate it again once my kids are grown.

Thank you for bringing up this topic -- I have had anxiety attacks in malls for many years. So my first advice would be to avoid that panicked-buying anxiety vibe you pick up in malls! One year, before kids, I actually bought absolutely NOTHING. Not one gift. And discovered nobody died as a result.

My anxiety now is that my husband tries to create a Christmas for the kids, that he never got to have. He spends a fortune and we are broke. I doubt they are even impressed since they are pretty constantly spoiled anyhow ... sigh. Not just materially, but they also get loads of attention and affection all the time, LOL.

But ... it is always something with holidays.

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I cannot handle malls or shopping either...my son is particularly sensitive to the Christmas 'crazy' vibe....he stays home November and December...

I'm sure it's not meant to cause pain...

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d33na ~ I enjoyed reading your account of what you do at Christmas for other people. What wonderful memories you have given your son to teach him about making other people feel good.

foxl ~ When my kids were young, I loved Christmas. Now that my OH and I have an 'empty nest' I do find myself hating Christmas. It seems that our oldest one always goes to his in-laws first and foremost. The younger one is divorced but always has to wait for his 'ex' to decide what her plans are going to be before he can make plans. We never know when they are coming, or even if they are coming.

I'm sorry that you have anxiety at this time of year. I wish there was some way we could just tone down our anxiety. Maybe if we continue giving voice to how we feel, the anxiety will lessen?

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John Steinbeck to Adlai Stevenson:

Adlai, do you remember two kinds of Christmases? There is one kind in a house where there is little and a present represents not only love but sacrifice. The one single package is opened with a kind of slow wonder, almost reverence. Once I gave my youngest boy, who loves all living things, a dwarf, peach-faced parrot for Christmas.He removed the paper and then retreated a little shyly and looked at the little bird for a long time. And finally he said in a whisper,“Now who would have ever thought that I would have a peach-faced parrot?” then there is the other kind of Christmas with present piled high, the gifts of guilty parents as bribes because they have nothing else to give. The wrappings are ripped off and the presents thrown down and at the end the child says-“Is that all?” Well, it seems to me that America now is like that second kind of Christmas.Having too many THINGS they spend their hours and money on the couch searching for a soul. A strange species we are. We can stand anything God and nature can throw at us save only plenty. . . If I wanted to destroy a nation, I would give it too much and I would have it on its knees, miserable, greedy and sick. . . And then I think of our “Daily” in Somerset, who served you lunch. She made a teddy bear with her own hands for our grandchild. Made it out of an old bath towel dyed brown and it is beautiful. She said, “Sometimes when I have a bit of rabbit fur, they come out lovelier.” Now there is a present. And that obviously male teddy bear is going to be called for all time MIZ Hicks.

When I left Bruton, I checked out with Officer ‘Arris, the lone policeman who kept the peace in five villages, unarmed and on a bicycle. He had been very kind to us and I took him a bottle of Bourbon whiskey. But I felt it necessary to say-“It’s a touch of Christmas cheer, officer, and you can’t consider it a bribe because I don’t want anything and I am going away. . .” He blushed and said,“Thank you, sir, but there was no need.” To which I replied-“If there had been, I would not have brought it.”

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Could you add the link to this, please WV Mom? The URL needs to accompany a copy/paste like this. Thanks.




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Sure. I've only quoted part of the letter. You can find the whole letter here.

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Thanks - I did the edit for you. Just place it as I did, as the source, to comply with forum policy & keep us out of trouble with the copyright people.




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Since the concern is copyrighted material, I changed the link to the actual book where it's published (America and Americans and Selected Nonfiction, by John Steinbeck) instead of a blog quoting the letter.

I love that letter. It was written over 50 years ago, and is as relevant today as it was the day it was written.

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