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Old 03-25-2016, 20:43   #11
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On a light note, my family has stopped the "remarks" because I got "upset" and my plan of action was to react by explaining, once again, how I eat low carb and pointing out how many carbs are in each meal they ordered. I know, passive-aggressive but it worked. Now, I don't think they even consider "remarking" about my meals. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

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On a light note, my family has stopped the "remarks" because I got "upset" and my plan of action was to react by explaining, once again, how I eat low carb and pointing out how many carbs are in each meal they ordered. I know, passive-aggressive but it worked. Now, I don't think they even consider "remarking" about my meals. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.
Congrats! I believe that every situation is different and what works for one is because every family is unique and individual. So I just think that's great that you found what does work for you. Getting upset over it is not really passive aggressive anyway, it's feeling your true feelings about it and then reacting. that's what you did and your reaction seemed to do the trick. All the best to you. . . .

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My biggest issue is the idea of family and friends that I need someplace "special" to go out to.

Whenever the subject of eating out comes up I'm the topic - Where can Larry go ?, What can Larry eat ?; Maybe "he" should pick the place.. Or when we go over to friends - What can I make for you ?...

I'm an adult, I can decide what to order, or not; and I can put the stuff I can eat on my plate...

When it comes to cake and ice cream I usually say that I'll share with the wife, and then not (or maybe I will take a spoonful if it's something really great) !!
This is my exact story, just replace Larry with Santosh

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Well, time helps. I've had type 1 for years, and for a long time it was a problem for friends and family. Now they mostly don't notice me, and I can eat or not eat at the table without comment from them. At restaurants I choose what I want, and I always have appropriate food in my bag along with my insulin just in case. I do occasionally still get somebody urging me to try something, or even trying to sneak something into a dish that I won't/can't eat, but not often. I realize they don't understand, and haven't the interest or patience to try to understand. That's one reason I come here! It's nice to be among folks who understand.
But, time helps.

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As I sit here my hubby has just polished off enough chinese takeout to feed 4 and a family sized bag of chips in front of me. He weighs 170 lbs and has no blood sugar issues. I can't complain about his food because he is doing fine eating like that but he has no clue about me even after years. He will always opt for A&W if we are out and he went into shock when I said I could not eat jarred applesauce from the grocery store. I have come to the conclusion that I need to ignore other peoples hurt feelings when they just don't get it and go my own way. I am wondering how you thicken gravy with pork rinds. I MISS gravy.

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I am finding that my son, who was diagnosed in December with type 1, is helped when I support him in his efforts for good control. He is getting used to the idea that it is not just what we eat, but how we feel that impacts our blood sugar numbers. He is thinking about aiming towards a less stressful job as part of better control. Mainly I tell him not to blame himself when he gets a crazy number. It is the disease, and we just keep on moving ahead the best we can,

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I am wondering how you thicken gravy with pork rinds. I MISS gravy.[/QUOTE]


We put "Fried Pork Rinds" in our food processor and run them until they are like flour in consistency. Then we put water in our pan that was used to cook the meat or the pan that held the Turkey (less all but 1-2 Tablespoons of the natural fat from the meat), bring the water to a boil while scrapping the pan to get all the goodness into the boiling water. We then add salt and pepper and the pork rinds powder, adding until the gravy thickens to our desired state. sometimes I add a pad or two of butter to richen up the gravy. Some times instead of water I use chicken or beef stock.

then serve it hot over the meat or in a gravy dish or both...enjoy!

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My Family just doesn't get my diet. It is very frustrating and I usually have to have a cheat day for family get togethers. It is nice to know I am not alone.

I have recently started dating again and I am concerned how my diet will effect meeting new people. I just don't have enough cheat days lol.

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This is a "little" off topic, but I have to share. Thursday I went to a Health Fair and told one of the "Diabetes Educators" who was manning a booth that I counted carbs. She approved and asked me how many. I told her a maximum of 75 a day and started to say I tried to stay at 50. She asked "75 a DAY? oh, no you mean 75 a meal?" I told her no, 75 a day or less. (Then I chickened out) I said, "It's like the Mediterrean Diet." She was mollified. But, can you imagine...she is the Diabetes Educator!

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You and your son, you both have T1 ???

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