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Old 09-08-2017, 01:27   #1
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Lately, I have found it more difficult not to offer advice when someone is struggling with diabetes, but they haven't requested help.

Let me try to explain. As an example, if I see friends on Facebook who are struggling with controlling their diabetes, the mother in me want to offer ideas that may help them, but more often than not, I find a lot of people don't really want advice, they just needed to vent, ya know?

As another example, I joined a diabetes group on social media, mostly in search of new recipes to try. Once I was accepted, the rules popped up and the biggest thing they stressed was that the group focuses ONLY American Diabetes Association recommendations and no other opinions are to be shared that weren't compliant with that.

Clearly, I realized quickly, that it wasn't the group for me, but before leaving, I took a look through the posts and was deeply saddened with so many people struggling and not understanding why they couldn't get the control they needed if they were doing everything they were supposed to. The responses were almost all medication related, including getting them increased and/or adding new drugs.

It just about broke my heart to close my browser window and step away...

So let me ask you a question. Do you ever offer advice that hasn't been requested? Why? Why not?

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I don't, unless the person involved clearly is seeking a change.

Because of my background (minor in chemistry; once worked in the medical field), I understand medical studies and I see why LCHF works. But not everyone has that kind of background. I don't mention my background to everyone I meet right away. Just as I probably would not be keen on getting architectural advice from someone I don't really know, I have to think others would not be keen on getting unsolicited advice from somebody whose qualifications for offering it are unknown. And we all know there's a lot of old information and junk science out there.

In addition, we all have different values. For example, my wife has a good friend who is a foodie and loves her desserts. She's also been T2 for years. Yes, she very likely could get by with less insulin if she cut back on dessert. But she puts much more value on dessert in her life than I do.

How do I know if dessert is the thing that makes other not-so-good things in her life OK? I don't. If Friend ever learns about my T2 and we talk about treatment, I'd be happy to mention how LCHF and exercise work for me. I'd be happy to refer her to this site if she wanted to pursue it. But tell her out of the blue? No. I don't know enough about that person to offer advice like that.

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I don't. I can go for days. Just not on forums like this who are frightened of allowing the dispensing of "unlicensed" medical advice!

In those cases, you have to think like a lawyer and phrase things very carefully so you are giving advice without giving advice, just talking about you "personal experience" or the latest studies, etc.

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Yeah, saying nothing is sometimes safest. I talk only about what works for me, that way it cannot be seen as advice.

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Not a big advice fan, either getting or giving. But it is more blessed to give than receive, right? And more fun. There's a little Polonius* in all of us.

*Polonius: Advice-dispensing buttinski in "Hamlet"

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Lately, I have found it more difficult not to offer advice when someone is struggling with diabetes, but they haven't requested help.

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So let me ask you a question. Do you ever offer advice that hasn't been requested? Why? Why not?
Sometimes and cautiously, i.e., if I know someone is diabetic and obviously overweight or morbidly obese, I make an 'introductory' remark about what a pain it can be to have it. Never met anyone who didn't agree on that. I then acknowledge that we're all different, with different bodies but I've found what works for me and even has me dropping weight without actively trying to. Where the conversation goes depends on their response. Those ADA guidelines, BTW, had me at (almost)5' tall up to 230 pounds some years back. They simply do not work for a lot of us and I can point at the majority of diabetics as proof eh.

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I don't. People who are motivated seek out the information. Most people aren't motivated enough to even reduce the amount of carbs to the recommendations of the ADA (and this includes family members). The only thing I occasionally mention to people is that potatoes, rice and bread turn into sugar in the bloodstream so it's not different than eating a donut. Some are surprised, most don't care.

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I don't. People who are motivated seek out the information. Most people aren't motivated enough to even reduce the amount of carbs to the recommendations of the ADA (and this includes family members). The only thing I occasionally mention to people is that potatoes, rice and bread turn into sugar in the bloodstream so it's not different than eating a donut. Some are surprised, most don't care.
Yup; apathy is a disease condition of the spirit eh.

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I'm teaching myself to not offer unsolicited advice. Much easier said than done. I catch myself doing it and then I have to reign in the "mother" in me.

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