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Old 01-25-2014, 06:19   #1
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I had my last straw today. I went to the doctor about my diabetes. I told him that I've changed my diet to low carb, that I exercise every day now, and that I've already lost ten pounds after only a month.

He treats my Mom who has diabetes as well, so I can't believe he acted this way.

He started screaming at me that none of what I was doing mattered. (This doesn't mean I am going to stop.) That I was an idiot trying to treat myself for diabetes and that he was the one with the medical degree. And that I had done this to myself. That I deserved to go blind and have organ failure because I was in denial about how I was destroying my body and that it was my fault that I had eaten bad and gotten sick.

I ran out of his office crying hysterically. I had a panic attack and vomited all over the place because I was so upset. I also almost passed out.

Just so you know, he's the THIRD doctor to say this same thing to me and it's making it really hard for me to want to go to the doctor about my diabetes.

My fiance was at the appointment and his mouth was open in shock while the doctor was screaming at me. He didn't even know what to say because he was so surprised someone was speaking to me like that.

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Oh sweetypie, how awful that you were treated in such an appalling manner by a so-called 'professional'.

This guy needs to have his licence revoked for treating a patient with such utter disrespect!! And, how dare he say that you have done this to yourself.

You say that this is the third doctor to say the same thing - doesn't really surprise me. They are towing the party line inasmuch as they believe that diabetics need to be treated as children who are to be lead by the hand into eating high carb, low fat diets and prescribed increasing amounts of medication until the poor body develops ghastly complications from high BGLs. Then they are justified in saying that diabetes is a progressive disease.

You have learned a hard lesson, one which many people here can relate to.

Tell em nothing!

Find another doctor and if you sense early on that this one is of the old school, smile and nod through your appointments and then go home and carry on doing what YOU know is the right way to treat your diabetes.

So sorry that you have been so upset by a truly despicable person (((hugs))).


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What a nasty experience!

I can't think of any reason for one doctor, let alone three, to treat you in such a fashion.

I hate to lie to docs and would imagine they'd be pleased to note the weight loss and exercise whatever your diet. I guess, however, that Freyagirl may be right in this case and that perhaps you'd best keep quiet until you find someone more reasonable.

I'm wondering how high your glucose is running, what meds are being prescribed, etc.

In any event, it doesn't excuse being told you've done this to yourself and that you deserve the complications!

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So sorry you had to have such a bad experience with yet another doctor. Most are mis-educated about dealing with diabetes and therefore diabetics. If they only spent as much time learning about compassion as they did egotism.

You should not let this turn you off of seeking medical treatment somewhere else because for every 3 bad doctors, there are 3 great doctors who do understand, who do care and have your best interest in mind. Even if having to travel further to a quarterly appointment, it will be well worth it, when you find Dr. Right.

At a minimum you should find a way to report the rude, unprofessional, and totally uncalled for behavior to the hospital this jerk works for and/or to the state medical board or agency.

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Hi, Sweetypie!

First and foremost ...

Now. I see you're in California. So am I.

Are you with a certain huge HMO? If so, staff who are directly in charge of your diet are required to push high-carb, low-fat. Job anxiety may be the thing that's setting your doctors off. (Which does not excuse the way your doc treated you!)

A change in docs is a must. But -- if you're in that HMO, or one that's similarly backward, silence is still the best policy (aaannnd, you'll likely find great support from other staff ... as long as they don't have to feed you or give official recommendations).

What your latest doc did? It clearly goes beyond official recommendations, and goes way over the line into abuse. He needs to be reported.

Please hang out with us, and keep us posted!

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I just read your post and haven't even read the replies yet, but please, please, please report this doctor to your state's medical board. This is completely, utterly unacceptable at any time, towards any patient. He does not deserve to continue practicing medicine. I could give a rat's behind how educated he thinks he is. Horrible.

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That is appallingly bad medicine. Here in the heart of cattle country (well, next door to it), I get TO'd by SUBTLE pressure ... howineheck YOU, in CA, the land of alternatives, should run into that, is beyond me!!!

Unless as someone else said, there is insurer pressure on the docs ... tragic!!! And unethical.

They should NEVER force us to LIE.

And what is more, there is even a MAGAZINE, "establishment approved," named Diabetes Self-Management! It is still carbalicious, but, it advocates for, well, its title!

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Here is the link to your state medical board: Consumers | Medical Board of California Please report that doctor. He shouldn't be allowed to inflict such behavior on any more patients.

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Old 01-25-2014, 16:00   #9
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Change course?

If you're type 2 and can keep your BG under 140 by what you're doing, there is no need for doctors. They (especially this one) have nothing to offer. Just take care of yourself. I don't visit doctors unless needed to get whatever labs I feel I should get done. What keeps me healthy is doing precisely the opposite of just about everything they ever said when I did go to them.

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I agree with Salim. If you're not on medications for blood sugar and you're in control of your BS, I would maybe try and self-manage (and I'd still report the doctor, too).

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