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Old 10-07-2015, 16:33   #1
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Hey guys.. so in another thread I can't remember which it was.. but I wrote about a friend of mine who is also type 2 diabetic but on insulin..unlike myself.. I am type 2 but, I am managing it really well thanks to advice from everyone here and my own willpower and research.. anyways.. so this morning she tested her blood sugar and was well over 200 about 210 to be exact.. she has a terrible diet.. eats what she wants etc.. the last thing she ate was some frozen chicken tenders.. and I told her it was likely the breading that caused her to go up.. she disagrees and says she tests all the time and doesn't get spikes from starches.. what can I do to convince her to change before its too late? I am really worried about her..

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Alas, this is quite common. There really isn't much you can do if she is resistant to your telling her anything.

There are five of us T2 diabetics in a group I attend. Myself and one other use a LC diet to keep BG down. The other three eat starches and candy. One of them has neuropathy, and KNOWS about how carbs and sugars affect BG, but choses to indulge anyway. The remaining two who eat carbs have read the BS101 book so have the knowledge but choose not to follow it.

Those of us who are determined and willing to do the work and make the changes are a rare minority.

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I'm sorry to say that VeeJay is right. It is possible that your friend, seeing your success will get the idea and quietly start following your example.

However, I can almost guarantee that pushing too hard would be counter productive and will result in heels being dug in.

It is very frustrating watching a friend follow the wrong path but in the end, it has to be their choice.
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yeah.. I figured as much.. I really don't bring it up.. she called me and told me she wasn't feeling well this morning.. I asked if she wanted me to go with her to the doctor but, she didn't want to go.. I will not push the issue.. but its hard to not say anything when she comes to me to tell me how terribly she has been feeling.. guess all I can do is listen.. and hope one day she decides to turn it around before its too late..

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To answer your question ........ very little, if anything.

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I'm surrounded by sweets-snacking T2s. All of them know I do low-carb, and why (I don't lecture, but I'm happy to explain if the subject comes up).

Slowly, they learned to accept my "quirk" because I was the only one on insulin, so they understand (a bit) about why I take diabetes seriously. But they will never go to such lengths themselves.

Fast-forward to today. Surprise! I'm no longer the sole insulin user. I'm now an insulin tutor, too. Frankly, while my help is very much needed, I feel like I'm aiding and abetting, because their eating habits have not changed.

Beyond frustrating ... but I can't really blame them. Public miseducation is rampant, and its effects run deep.
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You cannot fix someone who does not want to be fixed!

My advice is move on and finds friends that don't drag you down with them. I had to do this at one point in my life, and it was not easy, but it was absolutely the right thing to do. I did not want to watch my friend kill himself and I told him so. And he did....! But I was not around him as this all happened for years of drinking to much...

Consider moving on, otherwise you really become a bit of an enabler...

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Actually, if it were my friend who called constantly to tell me how sick she's feeling, I would eventually have to tell her that if she won't take my advice, she can darn well stop whining to me about being sick. She's her own worst enemy and I would stop enabling her.

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yeah.. I figured as much.. I really don't bring it up.. she called me and told me she wasn't feeling well this morning.. I asked if she wanted me to go with her to the doctor but, she didn't want to go.. I will not push the issue.. but its hard to not say anything when she comes to me to tell me how terribly she has been feeling.. guess all I can do is listen.. and hope one day she decides to turn it around before its too late..



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Everyone has their definition of a "friend". I've had "friends" who've tried to suck the life out of me...I've had to eventually tell to kick rocks. On the flip side I also have "friends" who I'll go down that road with until we meet our maker together. You have to decide who's who in your zoo.

Know the difference. If they're close to you...be strong...get up their a$$. If they're not...don't waste your time. In life...time is precious. If you care for them...you'll find a way to get through to them.

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"You have to decide who's who in your zoo."

I love that way putting it! Thanks!




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