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Old 11-23-2011, 20:31   #51
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I know how you feel. At work my coworker always brings donuts and offers. I am always taking. I was diagnosed in October but have not gotten as strict as I should be. I ate two donuts and had a very high glucose level the next day. I was sick! The last couple of times I have thanked him and said not today.

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I know how you feel. At work my coworker always brings donuts and offers. I am always taking. I was diagnosed in October but have not gotten as strict as I should be. I ate two donuts and had a very high glucose level the next day. I was sick! The last couple of times I have thanked him and said not today.
I feel your pain. There is a table outside my office and anytime anyone brings food for the group they put it there. I end up walking past cheesecake, pies, cobblers, etc multiple times a day and even feel like I sense it out there calling my name.. no wait that is my coworkers who keep asking me if I want any!

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um ok a few points...

you say you are a people pleaser...YOU are the top of that list of people to please...without you...you can't please anyone

YOUR health is more important than anyone's feelings

THEY are not qualifies to diagnose you nor tell you how to eat

YOU are not on a diet...you are eating to SAVE your life
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If you please them you are saying (and reinforcing) constantly that you are NOT worth saving
This is such gold! thank you for these words.

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THEY are not qualifies to diagnose you nor tell you how to eat

um I meant 'qualified' lol

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I s there a difference how people out there behave if you are type 1 or type 2?
For me it is only my future sister in law from Thailand who cant accept the way I eat. And I think for her it is in her culture to always have food with her when she visit us.
I know I have a strong body language after living with kids needing something extra, and working as a nightportier for many years in a hotel + I love all kind of animals, so maybe I tell people very clear that "no, thanks, I`m diabetic and want to stay healthy as long as I can." Seems like people respect my choice without any protest.

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I s there a difference how people out there behave if you are type 1 or type 2?
My first guess would be that people would consider a type 1's need to control their diet a bit more important than a type 2. But then again I see people all the time say a type 1's approach to diet is irrelevant because they "can just use insulin". So I think both sides can argue that they have it easier/tougher.

In this case since we are talking about random family members or coworkers (usually non-diabetics), let's assume that they are most likely ignorant of the differences between the types of diabetes and how to successfully manage diabetes in general. With that assumption, it's much easier to see that their opinion on what a diabetic can eat is worthless.

That's my long-winded way of saying, good for you on respecting yourself and forcefully/clearly communicating that you are going to do your own thing thank you very much!

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Oh, absolutely the attitude is different. For one thing we have the model that "if you just lose weight, and exercise, you will be fine;" even type 1's buy into THAT idea of Type 2, it is so pervasive ...

Also, the pre-Diabetes concept (or fantasy, mutter, mutter) leads people to think there is such a thing as "a little" Diabetes, so hey, it is also okay to cheat "a little," "just this once." They do not recognize that we are faced with this attitude from more than one source person!

I had a coworker, nice guy, but he always sort of smirked if I bought any junk food (and HE DID, too!), like it was a shortcoming or pecadillo that we shared .... UGH. Guess what? His wife has LADA. SIGH. Anyhow, the point is, people LIKE it when we are a bit "naughty," it is a way for them to relate to us, in so many cases.

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I'm not in the workplace, and mostly around close friends who respect and/or understand my choices, so haven't had any pushers. Rather, I have friends who are concerned about having food I can eat, sort of like I always am with vegetarians/vegans, so I relate. My biggest challenge is convincing them I'm fine, and every food doesn't have to be something I can eat. I won't starve!

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I know I have a strong body language after living with kids needing something extra, and working as a nightportier for many years in a hotel + I love all kind of animals, so maybe I tell people very clear that "no, thanks, I`m diabetic and want to stay healthy as long as I can." Seems like people respect my choice without any protest.
BINGO! I seem to speak the same language, and it's so nice having the option of resting one's vocal cords . . .




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