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Old 02-03-2016, 15:46   #31
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Kris...as Shanny mentioned most all of us have families where the meals are a time for gathering together and feasting, the food is part of the deal, I get that! But " My Special Crackers"...seems taking it a bit far...but that's just me...

I was the first diagnosed diabetic in my family. Both my father and his father died at 65 of heart disease, I turned 65 last year. Being a diabetic scared the pa-Jesus out of me! But when I found that going LCHF and using my meter to test my food limits, I felt empowered!

I also know the odds are good that one or more of my three kids or my six Grandkids are going to have this disease at some point.

Therefore, I announced at our first family feast after I found LCHF, that I had found a way to stay healthy and eat well with diabetes, and we had a 'diabetic feast' with ham, smoked turkey, diabetic potato salad, diabetic cheese cake, Greens, and lots of veggies and red wine or Micalob Ultra (2 carbs)....`I of course did not tell them it was all low carb, just that we were celebrating my new lease on health!

After the feast I told them we had all consumed a typical low carb meal. I explained LCHF and that one of more of them would have to deal with this disease....and that it did not have to be a death sentence nor did it have to be difficult to change our eating habits. I used this to start modeling the way for my adult kids and Grandkids...Instead of me following them, they will follow my wife and I. And yes my wife has been on LCHF same as I, she is not diabetic, but did need to lose some weight....she has lost weight and loves what we eat....it is all just a state of mind...

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Kris,

I hear you... and while I agree with the others, I think that thinking was adapted over time. I socialize quite a bit... including my favourite, wine club. And the food is aplenty. While I don't feel like I'm missing out on what the others are having because that craving piece is not there, I also want to "feel" social and enjoy the food with the wine. Solution: I bring my own. lol I whip out some shrimp, cheese, ham rolls... whatever the heck I want and I bring it along. I have gotten some stares and I know judgement, but like the other poster said, do I really care when the alternative is losing my leg?

If I may be so bold to say... I think that we invent ways in our heads that might cause us to fail, so that it sort of softens the blow and allows us to be more accepting of it if we do fall off the wagon. Does that make sense? For me it's like ignoring my meter - what you don't know... lol, right. You see where I'm going? Being honest with yourself, at the end of the day, will not fail you. You want to be successful? Accept nothing less from yourself.

I hope this came across as supportive and motivational... I was trying to say... "I get it" - "it's a daily struggle" - but it's the most important struggle you will wage... it's your life.

Must rush to a meeting! All the best... hope your numbers were smiling back at you today.
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Thanks Div - it is a state of mind for sure, I get that! So really, it's more than the social aspect for me - I have a crazy crazy history with food.

Always was chubby as a kid. Mom freaked out when I was in my teens for getting too fat so we went on this extreme diet when I was 15 where I counted every calorie and checked in to be weighed by counselors every day except Sunday. Yes, I lost 40 lbs but I also stopped getting my period - and they told me that was normal and said I could even stand to lose a few more pounds.

After that I did the exact opposite - started sneaking food and gained 60 lbs in 3 months. Cue years and years of compulsive over eating, self hate, love-hate relationship with food (it was more than just fuel, you know?).

I finally make it into my late 30's, early 40's where I'm starting to treat my body better, less obsessive about food, stop doing crazy diets etc. and then I find out I have to obsess about food (this is how it felt at the time) and count carbs for the rest of my life - the one thing I've been struggling against my whole life. Within weeks of finding out that I was diabetic (and menopausal), I lost my dad who I worked with for 18 years and now am supporting my mom and run the family business. So back to old, familiar habits.

I know, I know. Poor me. But I'm just explaining that my issue with food goes beyond carb cravings and feeling left out in social situations - there's the whole emotional/history/my story along with it.

So. That's my full disclosure. Sorry it's so long and I'm sure people are tired of me posting - I thank you all for your input and support, you have no idea.
And I do know it's on me to figure it out and take care of myself or I'll be blind, footless and stroked out before my 50th birthday.

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Old 02-03-2016, 16:41   #34
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SFM- yes! My last post is exactly that - my excuse for why I'm not following LCHF and killing myself. "My story".

So, I'm here to say I'm rewriting the story and I appreciate all of your help and support!

And your post was incredibly supportive!

Thank you thank you!

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We are not at all tired of your posting Kris. I hope you will continue to do so and that we can encourage and support you. It may seem like obsessing about food at first but you will learn through meter testing that there are plenty of things you can safely eat that can be go-to foods when you are hungry. I keep hard boiled eggs on hand, cheese, butter, mayo. For the afternoon slumps that happen sometimes, especially in the beginning salty broth with a big lump of butter stirred in is a good pick-me-up. It gives fluid, sodium and fat which can all be in short supply while your body adapts to this way of eating. If you use packaged foods check out total carb. Forget about subtracting fiber or sugar alcohols as "net Carbs" seems to be a marketing play that does us no favors. May be fine for those eating low carb just for weight loss but can be a problem for those of us with diabetes aka carbohydrate intolerance.
My favorite salad dressing is sour cream thinned with enough lemon juice to make it pourable, crumbled blue cheese and salt and pepper to taste. Simple and good. Butter and heavy whipping cream whisked (or stirred) into pan drippings makes a wonderful gravy or sauce. The cream thickens the sauce -no flour or other starch is needed.
As far as weight goes-blood sugar control has been my priority but the weight loss just happened. I've lost 35 lbs since I started LCHF which is 20% less than when I began. I haven't been this small since the early 1980s. Really. Without being hungry or feeling deprived.

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Dear Auntiekris, we are of an age, so let us be honest with each other, especially since my own mother was fatphobic and had me on umpteen diets to reduce the fat. The problem was that my genetics came mostly from the other side of the family Scottish/Viking. The more I ate HCLF the more weight I gained as a child. The more she cut my food back, the more I snuck forbidden food in.

It isn't just a physical addiction that you are fighting, but a psychological one. To free your body you need to free your mind. Please find a local Therapist or Addiction group that can help you with this, don't stay in the poor me scenario as you yourself call it. Be proactive and really kick the past in the balls so to speak. You can do this!

We may seen pretty harsh when it comes to food, but we all share some impressive stories of getting rid of meds and improving bloodwork on LCHF. We are here for you if you want to fight your way through this. Just hang in there and give it a chance.

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I have been fat my entire life, and I also began to become extremely preoccupied with my weight in adolescence. Not that it got me healthy. Mostly, it taught me how to lose huge quantities of weight and gain back even more. And it turned me into somebody who thinks obsessively about their end-goals, which can become overwhelming. When I was diagnosed T2, weight loss was even more imperative. I got really good at staying on a strict diet for months without wavering. Then, I would go off the wagon and gain at high speeds. I beat myself up for not staying on track and for undoing all that incredibly hard-fought progress.

Lately, I am trying to change my mindset. Instead of measuring my success by how long I can go without faltering, I now try to measure my success by how quickly I get back on the diet. I think this has really helped me. In the past, when I over ate, I was overcome with negative emotions: shame and hopelessness. Now, I see it as an opportunity to prove just how freakin fast I can get back on track, which is a great feeling.

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Thanks Judy! - and yep, made the phone call last week to the therapist. I recognize it's psychological - just thought I'd let it all hang out there with this crowd.

ooneil, I love this: Instead of measuring my success by how long I can go without faltering, I now try to measure my success by how quickly I get back on the diet.

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Kris....I think you are going down a very good road! We are all here to support and help...you will get no more advice from me....just support!

Good Luck...

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My "like" button is still AWOL so...."Like" ooneil and "Like" Kris. I think that's great to see how fast we can get back on track.

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