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Old 12-18-2017, 05:43   #1
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Unhappy how do i convince them?

how do i convince my family that type 2 diabetes
is real and that some require insulin and that it is
our metres (and maybe some symptoms) that tell
us that carbs have a bad effect on our health
how can i convince them to stop embarassing me for
needing to always count the amount of carbs every
time i do choose to eat some (so i can match the insulin)
and how do i get them to stop blaming me for every
hi or low blood sugar (there are so many things that
affect our numbers)
all these things make me feel so bad for having
diabetes and ive tried telling them.
thankyou for reading my post

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Old 12-18-2017, 06:11   #2
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how do i convince my family that type 2 diabetes
is real and that some require insulin and that it is
our metres (and maybe some symptoms) that tell
us that carbs have a bad effect on our health
how can i convince them to stop embarassing me for
needing to always count the amount of carbs every
time i do choose to eat some (so i can match the insulin)
and how do i get them to stop blaming me for every
hi or low blood sugar (there are so many things that
affect our numbers)
all these things make me feel so bad for having
diabetes and ive tried telling them.
thankyou for reading my post
I would tell them you increase the chances of developing damage to your eyes, kidneys, coronary arteries of heart, nervous system (micro & macro vascular), not to mention increased fatigue levels and even dehydration if glucose high enough. Also tell them the complexity of the disease and all the factors that play a role in managing diabetes

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how do i get them to stop blaming me for every hi or low blood sugar (there are so many things that affect our numbers)
all these things make me feel so bad for having diabetes and ive tried telling them
If you've tried to tell them, and they don't believe you, then there's probably nothing you can do about it. It's a pity they can't be supportive and encouraging.

Personally, if I encountered resistance and hostility toward me about my diabetes, I wouldn't say anything more about it and just do what I need to do without comment. But that's me.

From being on this forum and another one for Celiac, many people seem to have family members who like to make life difficult for those dealing with health problems. Many find that the forum folks are the ones who give the most support and encouragement.

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That's a tough crowd! How do they react when someone has heart problems or COPD? Just because they can't see it doesn't mean it's not there.

I think you do two things: One is to start educating your family about the damage that results from poorly-managed T2 (as Hearts Jounrey points out). Maybe throw around some statistics about how much more likely diabetics are to, say, suffer a heart attack compared to non-diabetics.

The other thing I recommend is to remember -- and remind your family -- that diabetes is a very individual disease. According to your profile, you were diagnosed in 2013. You know the foods that make you run high. You know how not feeling well -- or being stressed or dehydrated -- can affect your BG levels.

Your family does not know these things. You can choose to educate them on this ("I can eat a handful of strawberries but I can't eat an apple" or "When I'm dehydrated my blood glucose level goes up"). It may take several reminders over time.

And you can make sure you take care of you. If you need to get some water to stay hydrated, do it. If you need to eat "real" food before a family event and nibble once you're there, do it.

Don't let peer pressure lead you to mismanage your condition.

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pctm....very difficult situation, but all you can do is 'stay the course' in time they will come around.

Also, consider copying your post and our responses and share it with them....sometime seeing it works better than what you are saying!

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This, I find, is one of the problems when you include your family in your personal matters. And diabetes IS a personal matter. You teach people how to treat you. In my opinion...and I'm 74 and a bit of a curmudgeon...if my family were "embarrassing me"...I'd have no reservations about telling them to "shaddup"!

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Invite them to read this thread, and to ask their own questions. If they're unwilling to educate themselves, shut them out. Refuse to engage. If they try to shame you, stop the discussion, and if you can leave, leave.

(I understand, your ability to entirely shut them out depends on your circumstances and your relationship to them, but nobody deserves to be treated the way your family is treating you right now.)

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I have all kinds of people on Facebook trying to tell me that being a vegan is the way to go. I tell them that I go by my meter. Thats all I can do.

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I frequently comment on my amazement how many people in our society want to 'debate' everything. Seems many, somehow feel debating on topics somehow adds value to their involvement with others.

Fact is that debating someone on a diagnosed health issue is really a waste of time. If a person has been medically diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes, why would anyone want to debate with them?

If your family wants to debate about what you should do, or how you should eat, etc. etc. Tell them to 'bug off'! debating will not change the fact that you are a diabetic and that you must learn how to control this disease, or it will kill you.....most all of us on this website have learned to take personnel responsibility for our disease and how we choose to manage it! Not really going to debate that with anyone including my doctor (not that I do not listen to his comments, but I do not debate with him) and family.

Join in and don't let others debate your personal health issue and how you handle it!


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pctm, I'm sorry to hear that your family is not being supportive. I come from a family of diabetics, so that's usually the topic of discussion when we get together...ha!

Very few people know my business. No one in my immediate office knows about my T2. I've told 5 people at work, but none of them work directly with me.

Some of my friends post about their T2 on fb, and they bombarded with all kinds of "suggestions." Yeah, I don't even comment.

That's why I love it here! I can ask questions and just share my thoughts and feelings. Everyone here is very supportive.

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