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Old 05-29-2018, 16:27   #1
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Remember when you were first diagnosed with diabetes?

A few of you are very results oriented and whipped through the initial diagnosis fairly easily. Perhaps you researched everything and were able to get to work on controlling your diabetes immediately.

For the rest of us though, it was a process that we had to figure out, and it happened over time.

We likely went through several stages. We maybe even repeated a few of the stages.
  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Bargaining
  • Acceptance
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Throughout my journey, I’ve experienced and endured the five stages of grief. The hardest part about this disease is the emotional aspect. If only I could have accepted the diagnosis from the get-go, adjusted to the life long changes, and lived happily ever after. But unfortunately, that’s not how the journey unfolded. My Journey With Diabetes and The 5 Stages Of Grief
When a newly diagnosed member joins, we get really excited to try to help them understand what we have discovered along the way. That's a good thing! I think we have to remember to do so with kindness though because not everyone is quite ready yet to attack things head-on. As always, it's a journey, one day at a time.

What stages did you go through?

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I am pretty sure I went through all of those stages and a few more.

I also got stuck in a few. The stage I got stuck in the longest (a few times) was the "to heck with it" stage. Yeah, I realize that one isn't on the list, but it was definitely one that I experienced. How did I finally get past it? I have no idea. Maybe I just got sick and tired of being sick and tired.

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It was different for me - at 4 years old, back in 1966 I was diagnosed and lost consciousness on the way to the hospital (my parents were driving). I ended up spending quite a bit of time in a pediatric ICU until I regained consciousness and started to become aware.

So because of that - I've never experienced grief from having diabetes. It almost killed me and I think this has resulted in me making the most of life and enjoying every second of it.

I imagine there are lots of diverse perspectives and experiences on this one!

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Denial, Depression, Acceptance. Took about six years.

Four years were spent in (public) denial. I cut back on carbs -- stripped the buns from burgers, cut back on potato salad and pasta salad at the potluck, and quit going to the spaghetti fundraiser. That was enough to bring my A1c down to the doctor mentioning it but not pressing me on it. But still no thought of metformin or insulin or cutting back further on carbs.

About a year ago the doctor told me my A1c was 6.9 -- my "high water mark". Time to do something about it. A little depression -- I saw what diabetes had done to my father and now I knew what I was doing did not make it go away. But I think a lot of the depression had dissipated since I'd had several years to mourn the loss of being able to eat the entire bag of chips or the big monster cookie or as much beer as I wanted.

After a couple of weeks of self-pity, though, I decided I had things I wanted to live for -- grandkids, my lovely wife, a good life -- and I decided to start managing my health. I came here, started LCHF, and started exercising more ... and here I am. Not thrilled to be a diabetic, but it's what I am. So be it. Life could be far worse.

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I still go through the "what if" stage now and then.

What if I would have listened to the doctors warning to watch out for diabetes more than 20 years ago after dealing with gestational diabetes.

What if I hadn't been addicted to sodas.

What if I hadn't been a smoker.

What if...

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I think I was already at acceptance by the time I had gotten the "official" diagnosis. For a few years before then, there were ample clues that I probably was already diabetic but I was in denial, because I couldn't be. I was borderline, not diabetic, my numbers were not that bad, even my doctor said so and would have told me if I was.

I don't remember anger or depression, except maybe a little anger when I got to reading about the Januvia/Janumet I had half-heartedly been taking (a very good thing in hind sight). I still feel some anger that doctors keep prescribing this and other stuff as bad or even worse, not to mention the recommendations made on food choices.

My bargaining always seemed to be food based. Lets see what happens if I quit the pies and cake, lets see what happens if I quit the coke and candy. I even bought some diabetes books about foods (vegan, glycemic index) but saw what they recommended didn't get my BG down where it should be.

I was fortunate that I had run into this forum and finally found what did work. Of course it wasn't overnight success and there were lots of posters with much better FBG than I had, that was my depression moments if you want to call it that. I finally discovered YMMV, what worked for someone else might not work for me, and figured out I had to be a little more drastic in the carbs I cut.

By then my attitude was that whatever it takes, I'm willing to do. I remembered when I was in high school and my grandmother's brother being diabetic and having foot sores, getting a foot and then a leg amputated only to learn it was too late and gangrene wound up killing him. Not me, no way.

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I've never been a glutton except when it comes to sweets. All kind of sweets; chocolates, candies, pies, cakes, ice creams, juices, soft drinks, pralines, tortes, jello, etc...

I kind of saw it coming.

So, when my doctor told me "you are diabetic" I haven't been surprised. I knew it. I just never believed it'll happen to me. It can't happen to me. It just can't ! Bad stuff happens only in movies, or to other people far away from us. How stupid.

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Remember when you were first diagnosed with diabetes?
We likely went through several stages. We maybe even repeated a few of the stages.
  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Bargaining
  • Acceptance

What stages did you go through?
All of these and more! I knew that I was diabetic before I went in to see the doctor. I had been in denial for almost a year, refusing to go to the doctor. It got to the point that I could no longer ignore it, so I angrily went to the doctor. I knew nothing about how to eat for better control. The diabetic educator didn't help with that.
I learned how to eat from this forum, but took a long break from "caring" about strict control. It was always just a little won't hurt me (bargaining). When my A1c went from 5.7 to 6.3 and finally to 7.3 I realized I needed to get control again.
When first diagnosed I didn't want anyone to know. Now I am comfortable with telling anyone and everyone that I am allergic to sugar/carbs. I have had a few tell me "Just take a pill."
My mother is in a nursing home with dementia from high blood sugar and high blood pressure--she never learned how to control either one. She's been in a wheelchair for a long time due to neuropathy and strokes. She is one of the reasons I am trying to take care of myself.

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I'm not sure what to call the stages, but I remember going to the grocery store everyday for a week, reading labels, not finding much that I liked.

I also remember my vision going blurry while my sugars dropped and stabilized. No one explain to me that this is typical and will get better, so I like to warn others that go through this in hopes they don't get so uptight about it as I did.

Also, I had big time denial. I was getting up and peeing every 2 hours all night long, and was unable to stop drinking because I was so thirsty. Without a doubt, I knew what this meant, but it still took me a few weeks to go see my doctor.

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I'm not sure what to call the stages, but I remember going to the grocery store everyday for a week, reading labels, not finding much that I liked.

I also remember my vision going blurry while my sugars dropped and stabilized. No one explain to me that this is typical and will get better, so I like to warn others that go through this in hopes they don't get so uptight about it as I did.

Also, I had big time denial. I was getting up and peeing every 2 hours all night long, and was unable to stop drinking because I was so thirsty. Without a doubt, I knew what this meant, but it still took me a few weeks to go see my doctor.
I also had blurry vision when my A1C went from 9 to 6.0. My optometrist said my glasses Rx was now too strong.

I suspected diabetes for 8 months when I started to lose weight, but since I struggled with weight my whole life, I wasn't about to spoil it. After I'd lost 30 lbs, my sister tested me with her meter - 491. I did many hours of research & was able to improve my diet & lost another 70 lbs with normal blood sugar & no meds or insulin. That was fine - for 5 years, then my sugar started to climb & my A1C went to 12.4. I've been using insulin since then.
It's sorta funny; everyone (doctors included) say your diabetes will improve when you lose weight. Mine got worse.

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