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T12018 07-14-2018 17:55

Diabetes dating sites
 
Anyone try this ? Would be nice to not have to explain my food and drink choices on the first date. I would want to do this to find a stay healthy with diabetes partner.

Cricket 07-14-2018 19:03

I don't feel the need to explain my food or drink choices.

Just sayin'... ;)

T12018 07-14-2018 19:42

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Originally Posted by Cricket (Post 1306607)
I don't feel the need to explain my food or drink choices.

Just sayin'... ;)

Are you sure you don't want to have some ? Its my grandmas brown sugar apple pie recipe and I made it just for you.

xring 07-14-2018 21:26

I think it's a good idea. There are so many myths about diabetes from non diabetics...."It's your fault..." etc.

Then there are the "Oh, c'mon...you can have this banana split....it's my birthday...it ain't gonna hurt you."

Cricket 07-15-2018 03:27

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Originally Posted by T12018 (Post 1306611)
Are you sure you don't want to have some ? Its my grandmas brown sugar apple pie recipe and I made it just for you.

Heck, even my Facebook friends know I live a KETO lifestyle, so I am guessing that someone I was dating would know as well and wouldn't offer me apple pie. If they did, I would simply say, no thank you.

T12018 07-15-2018 14:46

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“Son, never trust a man who doesn’t drink because he’s probably a self-righteous sort, a man who thinks he knows right from wrong all the time. Some of them are good men, but in the name of goodness, they cause most of the suffering in the world. They’re the judges, the meddlers. And, son, never trust a man who drinks but refuses to get drunk. They’re usually afraid of something deep down inside, either that they’re a coward or a fool or mean and violent. You can’t trust a man who’s afraid of himself. ”


If I am going to turn down drinking I am explaining I am diabetic !!

never trust a man who doesn't drink www.google.com/search?q=never+trust+a+man+who+doesn't+drink About 73,800,000 results (0.36 seconds)

I am guilty of having had prejudices against people who don't drink, at least I am honest about it. Now I know about addiction recovery and what that is about but alot of people don't or if they do and are not a recovering person themselves it makes it worse.



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VeeJay 07-15-2018 15:00

How cynical and insulting to those of us who choose not to drink, or if do, limit it to one. The idea that someone who won't get drunk is untrustworthy??? How convoluted is that! I lived with a man who always got drunk. He was no shining example of a trustworthy person, in fact he was a lying cheat.

itissteve 07-15-2018 15:05

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“Son, never trust a man who doesn’t drink because he’s probably a self-righteous sort, a man who thinks he knows right from wrong all the time.[...]
Whoever said that is, umm, interesting. And probably rather old. :smile2:

Maybe it's just that I grew up around people who did not drink except on special occasions. Or maybe it's because I know people who don't drink alcohol because of religious conviction. Or because they're alcoholics. Or because alcohol doesn't mix with whatever meds they have to take. Or ... whatever.

When I was dating (several years ago) it never occurred to me to meet someone at a bar or even that alcohol would be a required part of our evening. And I don't think I'd bat an eye if my date said, "I don't drink." That might open the door to the question why, which I suppose could make people uncomfortable. But the answer always can be "I just don't" and you could reconsider a relationship with anyone who wasn't satisfied with that answer at least at that meeting.

But I'll admit that I don't exactly conform to what everyone else does.

ETA Not to say that a dating site centering around people who are diabetic is not a bad idea. I know there are sites out there for all kinds of folks -- vegans, members of particular religions, farmers, etc. I just see my diabetes differently. Does it limit what I choose to eat? Yes. But I don't want to limit my universe of potential partners to only people with diabetes (I don't now; my wife does not have diabetes).

I don't find having diabetes that central to my existence and I can manage it among a world of "normies". But, again, I'm not the gold standard in this department.

T12018 07-15-2018 15:14

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Originally Posted by VeeJay (Post 1306737)
How cynical and insulting to those of us who choose not to drink, or if do, limit it to one. The idea that someone who won't get drunk is untrustworthy??? How convoluted is that! I lived with a man who always got drunk. He was no shining example of a trustworthy person, in fact he was a lying cheat.


That is interesting because I went through treatment for alcohol and doctor inflicted pill dependency and it drove me crazy the stereotype that all "alcoholics and addicts" are lyers and cheats. Even the industry promotes it.

I group I would say make I statements please ! They loved saying "we all have to work on our honesty" No YOU DO, I got caught up cause I had anxiety issues so leave me out of it.

T12018 07-15-2018 15:29

Another thing the addiction recovery industry promotes is the idea we are all unstable people just one drink away from total ruin. Hide your liqueur if we come to your house...

I kicked the physical dependency and went back to occasional partying like everyone else.


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