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Old 09-17-2019, 16:08   #1
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So the other day, my friend called me to tell me that she rec'd a good report from her doc. She lost some weight, and her A1C went from a 6.5 to a 5.8. Then she proceeded to tell me something else, and then we had to end the call because we both were at work.

A few days later, I reached out to her and told her that I was a little surprised to learn that she was diabetic and asked her why she hadn't told me.

Her response was that she didn't tell me because she was never officially diagnosed with diabetes. Her doc told her that she was "pre" and that she had to watch her carbs and lose weight so that she could reverse her "pre" diabetes. Since I've been diagnosed, I've shared info with her about T2 and have told her about this forum and everything I've learned. She has never commented about anything.

In the end, I told her that even though her doctor, who by the way is an endocrinologist, didn't officially diagnose her with diabetes, her numbers say otherwise. We left it at that because I've also learned that you cannot argue with diabetics who are in denial.

I thought endos didn't recognize "pre" diabetes.

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You are so right - you can't argue with someone in denial. You'll only wreck your friendship.

In the future, if her BG creeps up, she'll remember what you said and perhaps seek out your advice. (But don't hold your breath!)

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Old 09-17-2019, 18:48   #3
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My bestie fits the exact same profile with her GP not being concerned as long as her A1C is <7! I can't even talk her into testing though under my influence she has started moderating her carb intake and ordered a ... chaffle maker!

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I'm in denial.

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My bestie fits the exact same profile with her GP not being concerned as long as her A1C is <7! I can't even talk her into testing though under my influence she has started moderating her carb intake and ordered a ... chaffle maker!
It's ironic - as a Type 1 both my GP and Endo have the same standard A1C <7 - they don't seem to be too concerned if it's between 7 - 8 although they get a little excited if it's in the 8s.

I'm wondering if the A1C standard is different based on whether you are a Type 1 or a Type 2? One of the causes of death for Type 1s and I know two people who have died this way - hypos - low blood sugars. Both were under pressure to exercise strict control to potentially avoid complications and as a result died for it.

Not sure how common this is. I would love to see some stats on it.

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Very sorry about your friends who died from hypos. That certainly gets one's attention.

Do endos tend to give the same advice to T1s and T2s on insulin as to when to correct? Wonder if there's a boilerplate aspect to it. I'm new to insulin, was told to correct >150, but have to wrap my head around that as someone who used rarely to reach 150.

Am adding basal because I want to nudge my fastings back <100 and am always tempted to correct >120.

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