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Old 03-04-2014, 19:38   #1
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Wondering how many are faced with daily attempts at sabotage. It comes in many forms. Dieticians are my personal pet peeve. The ones that don't know which way is up and preach one diet or another - no medical training.

Not that that means a whole lot as I have sat in front of many highly qualified doctors over the past five years who couldn't find their rear ends with both hands in broad daylight. What a terrible waste of time and I often wonder if I had more damage done that good at times. Nontheless, I am here to tell the tale so I shan't complain.

I find some of my greatest saboteurs being family and friends; and the friendly waitress, whom after being told that you are diebetic offers you a coke or a luscious desert... you know the ones.

I am constantly cajoled with "try a little bit - what harm can it do? It's just a 'taste"". And a bowl of carbs and pure sugar later one can feel the damage being done.

Sabotage.

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Old 03-04-2014, 19:51   #2
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I'm surrounded by cake-eating Type 2s who are deeply concerned because they expect me to keel over from heart attack or stroke, Any Minute Now.

I feel your pain.

Little or none of this is their fault, really ... which doesn't help much.

After a few (or several) months, your diet will no longer be such a novelty to friends and family. Perhaps they'll ease up on the button-pushing ... a bit. Fingers crossed!

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Because I surrounded myself with people who wouldn't criticize my food choices even before I was diabetic, I've found that there isn't much temptation being offered. In fact, when I plan a cheat meal because I've been invited to a friend's house for a meal, I sometimes find they've taken pains to make it lower carb!

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I'm recently diagnosed (Oct 2013), and have not really explained what I'm doing or how it's going to work to my BF (we own a house, but are not married). Because I'm working on figuring it all out, myself, he's on his own for food. One of my first actions was to re-arrange the kitchen food into "his" and "mine" so I would not have to go into the danger zone. He also deals with the chest freezer, and I have the house freezer.

I'm now slowly getting him used to the idea that "if it's not on the list, you're not getting it." I do all the household shopping (because I have more time) and if he needs something from grocery or CostCo that I don't consume, it has to be on the list.

So my sabotage lives in the house.

On the flip side, since adding more fat, I've been getting a lot of "You can have that?" from him to things I bring home (like those fried pork skins, and the sheer amount of bacon I've been eating....)

And when I do cook larger batches of food, he's restricted on how much he's allowed to have, because his high-carb ways mean he should NOT be eating my high-fat food!

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"Do you eat these?" "No." "What about this?" "No." "How about a piece of fruit?" "I don't eat fruit." "I have Lean Cuisines in the freezer." "I don't eat those either."

I patiently answer the same questions over and over again, and hear frustration in their voices.

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I have friends who roll their eyes that i test and track as a pre. My favorite line is "You arent even diabetic yet". .yet.... it is that operative word that drives me.

My parents, siblings and coworkers are so supportive. My coworker E said that if she ever saw me with pizza, she would knock it out of my hands. That's brave!!

So, one hour and 30 mins after eating IM at an 85...I only have to please myself, right?
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I found my best defense (results?) is telling people I'm carb sensitive! The word diabetes seems to confuse or scare people. Some don't associate diabetes with the foods you can't eat, they just know that you have a disease they don't understand. If I tell them I'm carb sensitive, they don't think disease, they think something more immediate; maybe I'll break out in a rash; maybe I'll get something intestinal; maybe I throw up! They will help you avoid an immediate reaction but long term affects? Oh, just a little bit won't hurt you. Get that all the time.
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I stopped showing the dietician my son's food diary. There are numerous meals that he doesn't bolus for because it's LCHF. The second appointment we had, she was a little bit short with me because she asks if the allotted carb amount per meal was too high, she would tweak his diet. She kinda tsk'ed tsk'ed at me when I told her that I would like to follow the low carb diet. I would control his diet. I guess she didn't like that very much. I did see her today though. Surprisingly, she was friendly.lol!

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We're all faced with unhealthy food choices at one time or another. I learned early on to get into the habit of simply saying no, with a smile.

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About a month or so into eating low-carb and a BUNCH of other restrictions, a co-worker backed me into my cube (where I could not escape) and WAVED A BOX OF CANDY UNDER MY NOSE. I very nearly flipped my lid and punched him in the face. Because yes, he was aware I was not eating any wheat or sugar at the time. And it was some kind of Indian milk-based yummy concoction.

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