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SophieMaree 11-08-2014 20:02

Boyfriend (recently diagnosed) has lost his sex drive... HELP!
 
Hello,

My boyfriend of 3 1/2 yrs was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes about 4-5 months ago.... He is on 2 types of medication (can't recall what they are called) but since his diagnosis our sex life is non-existent.

He says it is the medication, but I thought maybe after so many months of taking it regularly, his libido might return.

I don't want to keep nagging him about it as I can tell he is really self-conscious, but it's been almost 4 months since he has touched me and I am starting to worry... He says he is taking his medication regularly (this is questionable though)

Is this a normal reaction? Could this be caused by taking these types of medications on an irregular basis? Is there anything that he could take to increase his sex drive?

I know he is going through a lot and I might be acting selfish, but can anyone give me any advice on how to deal with this?:confused:

Sophie

John.in.France 11-08-2014 20:09

Your post has been moved to Family and Friends of Diabetics - The Diabetes Forum Support Community For Diabetics Online as you are not yourself, diabetic.

Frankly there is not a lot we can say on this subject. There are many issues with the management of diabetes and loss of libido is one.

Your boyfriend is currently going through a lot of stress and I suspect his sex life is, quite correctly, low on his priorities.

I suggest that until he comes to grips with his condition, you remain supportive and encouraging.

robopancreas 11-08-2014 22:04

I can only speak from experience, but the meds (metformin and glipizide) made no difference for me. Sustained high blood glucose, feeling ill and as mentioned, stress can put a damper on things. Patience lady...

jademuffin 11-12-2014 17:15

Sophie, many of us go through a HUGE amount of depression at diagnosis. And then a whole lot of change. And a whole lot of our attention is focused on our lifestyle, we become obsessed with what we are eating (for good or for bad), and all else falls to the wayside.

Especially those of us who were "blindsided" by said diagnosis. So if this is the case for your BF, it's going to take time and your continued support before he decides to look around himself for real, and discover the impact is not as much as he thought it may be.

And lets face it, boys can be dumb, and not realize that that is what they were doing for all those months they were pretending everything was fine, when clearly it was not.

robopancreas 11-13-2014 06:41

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Originally Posted by jademuffin (Post 750938)
Sophie, many of us go through a HUGE amount of depression at diagnosis. And then a whole lot of change. And a whole lot of our attention is focused on our lifestyle, we become obsessed with what we are eating (for good or for bad), and all else falls to the wayside. Especially those of us who were "blindsided" by said diagnosis. So if this is the case for your BF, it's going to take time and your continued support before he decides to look around himself for real, and discover the impact is not as much as he thought it may be.

And lets face it, boys can be dumb, and not realize that that is what they were doing for all those months they were pretending everything was fine, when clearly it was not.

This is a bunch of sexist non-sense. Really.

gotsomeold 11-13-2014 11:50

I don't know if this is possible. But it might be good if your BF could join us here: ask questions, learn, maybe come to understand that people can come through a diabetes diagnosis and - in very many cases - live very normal, healthy lives.

silvertiger 11-13-2014 16:35

If anything, my libido increased after diagnosis because I wasn't so tired anymore! Your boyfriend might be depressed because he thinks it's a downhill slide after diagnosis. Far from it, he never has to suffer any of the diabetic "side effects" if he keeps his A1C in the 5.x range, by keeping his BG under 140 (7.8). And he can do that with a low carb, higher fat diet! Read more here and you'll see what I mean.


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