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Old 01-28-2015, 01:44   #1
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Unhappy Diabetic sister who is mentally ill

What do you do when your family members flat out WON'T take her medicines unless you beg, plead, persuade, and preach to? My sister is so obsessive-compulsive she can't get herself to take her medications. Anyone here with family members who are so unbelievably non-compliant due to an intractable personality disorder?

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There may be nothing you can do. Very difficult, but unless she's a such a grave danger to herself or others that the courts have to step in to impose a conservatorship or guardianship over her, she is an independent adult, and legally capable of making her own decisions, even if that decision is not what you would want to see her make.

Beating your head against the way trying to nag, plead, beg, cajole, etc. is just an exercise in futility. It will get you nowhere but angry, and that's no way to live your own life. Do yourself a favor and disengage from trying to "save" her. It will never succeed.

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You are in a harsh situation, indeed.

As Janknitz said, unless your sister has a guardian or conservator, it is beyond difficult to manage another adult's diabetes -- and I'm afraid it may well prove to be impossible if the adult chooses not to comply.

Two thoughts do come to mind. They are only thoughts -- please keep or toss.

-- Is your sister in therapy? A word to the therapist/psychiatrist may bring another voice, and a fresh approach, to the situation. (You may only be allowed to leave a detailed message with the receptionist.)

-- Is it possible to discuss this with your sister at a moment when she is not in the throes of obsession, and you both have time to talk? She may be able to come up with some solutions that do not involve you in the role of Nag-in-Chief. (If she is completely unwilling, and not just stuck, there is not much you can do.)

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Having been in your situation with my late DH I totally understand your frustration. After much pushing and arguing it became obvious that I was making no head way and actually destroying our relationship. I finally came to the realization that he was an adult and making his own decisions, as much as I disagreed, he went blind and had a leg amputated before he passed away. Some people will never take the responsibility needed and there is nothing we can do to help. Be there, support her, and without pressure try to do what you can to get her on the right path.

That experience led me to where I am today, I will definitely not go down that road, I will do everything I can do to avoid any complications. I won't put that responsibility on my children. I am happy with where I am now.

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