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Old 09-18-2012, 07:17   #1
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Hi. I'm kk from Texas. I have been diagnosed with diabetes for a few months. I am working closely to get my bs in check. First with medication now with insulin which I absolutely despise. I am eating a lot better basically eggs & fruit for breakfast, a big salad for lunch, & dinner consists of a protein, veggies, & limited grains. I have given up all drinks except water. I go to the gym 5 times a week after work or on weekends. I do 2 days of Zumba, the other 3 days are weight lifting & cardio machines. My goal is to lose weight & get off all medicines. I am afraid to tell my family, my co- workers, friends because I don't want to seem like I am a failure because I have diabetes. I feel all alone. I am a single mom, my 18 year old son has just started college. Has anyone else noticed how expensive eating healthy is?

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Old 09-18-2012, 09:53   #2
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What you need to work on, is your total carbohydrate intake for the day. Try to keep it as low as possible for the quickest results. You could do it in a graded manner. Fruits & grains are strictly off my foods list.

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Old 09-18-2012, 09:58   #3
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I am afraid to tell my family, my co- workers, friends because I don't want to seem like I am a failure because I have diabetes. I feel all alone. I am a single mom, my 18 year old son has just started college. Has anyone else noticed how expensive eating healthy is?
Hi, you are not a failure because you have diabetes. It is more hereditary than not. I dont advertise it either, but Im ok with it. Some people have other conditions and mine just happen to be D. I agree with it being more expensive, especially if one still wants to buy organic. Hang in there, you will get the hang of it and there is a lot of support and good advice here.

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Old 09-18-2012, 13:35   #4
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I'm not overweight, I used to eat pretty normal (healthier than the average) and no one in my family has it, but I got it anyway now my goal is to have it another 50 years without it hurting me.

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Hi kk from NM!

Check out bloodsugar101 for some good info particularly the "you didn't do it" section. (I don't know how to do proper links but someone else may help with that). The sites a good read.

Second. Since you can't handle carbs as a diabetic, I'd suggest doing a low carb diet, think Atkins type plan. Go to dietdoctor.com/lchf for basic info. You'll notics that as you drop the carbs your control will improve. You may even need less medication. I stopped insulin 4 months ago doing this!

If you've got any other questions feel free to ask.

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Old 09-18-2012, 15:18   #6
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You are experiencing feelings of anger, shame, and guilt. These feelinga are normal when one is hit with a difficult situation.

First, you need to "come out". If the people around you don't know what's wrong, they can draw their own conslusions, which could be even more damaging. You need to talk to your doctor about why you "despise" insulin. I don't use insulin, so I'm a poor one to give advice, but perhaps you could switch to something more convenient, longer-lasting, packaged more discreetly....

I would highly suggest joining a support group. NOT an online group, like this (although this is a great board). You need to actually interract with other people who have D. You don't need to make it your life, you might even choose to go just a few times. It helps to realize you're not alone.

Keep coming to this board any time to vent. Good Luck---you will handle it

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Old 09-18-2012, 15:21   #7
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Also, you must at least letthose closest to you know, your dh, family. What if you had a crisis? Or at least carry a card in your wallet, the ID jewelry is a lot nicer nowadays, something to let others know.

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Hi KK,
You've got the right approach but perhaps you can achieve better results by consulting a clinical dietician who will more or less tailor make your dietary regime( which can be economical) based on your:
-BMI
-Recent Blood Profiles
-Occupation
-Degree of physical activities

Achieving an ideal BMI can usually reduce the dosage of required but totally stopping all medications may be difficult.

Rgds ,

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I'm not overweight, I used to eat pretty normal (healthier than the average) and no one in my family has it, but I got it anyway...
Same here, so don't beat yourself up about what happened! You're doing a great job just working toward being healthier.

I've been pre-diabetic since 2006. Back in March my numbers started taking a turn for the worse and I started feeling like a failure because I knew I was pre- and was unable to stop the progression. On a different forum, someone pointed out that some of us will get diabetes no matter what we do, and the goal is to just try to be healthier.

Like you, I don't tell very many people, but my reasons are different. Because I'm on pre-diabetic (according to my doctor; my numbers tell a different story), I feel odd saying I'm diabetic when my doctor says I'm not.

I've now accepted that it doesn't matter who says I am/am not; it matters only what my meter says. And it doesn't matter who knows it as long as I carry something in my wallet that tells emergency medical crews about it, and as long as I have good forums to learn from.

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Oops! That first sentence was intended for the original poster, not the person I was quoting.

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