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Old 04-01-2010, 21:11   #1
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Hello everyone,
My name is Casey. I am not diabetic but my father is. He is 64 years old, he has had adult onset diabetes for about 15 years simply from a terrible terrible diet.
By terrible I mean ice cream everyday, nothing but complete junk food like zingers, doritos, fastfood etc. He will not touch a vegetable, except potatoes. He also doesn't get any exercise at all. Shockingly he is thin. He always has been. I don't know how.
He takes insulin injections everyday and he thinks that as long as he does that he can eat whatever he wants. He actually thinks that he is healthy as long as he is thin.
What I really really need is a way to show him the reality of how this disease will affect him as he gets older if he doesn't make a change. I would really like to show him the most morbid examples that I can find. I think that might get his attention.
Do you know any documentaries or websites that might bring him into reality. I don't think I could get him to read a book about it. He would blow it off.
I want my dad to be around for a long time and I want him to be healthy for a long time. I don't know what I would do without him.
Do you have any advice for me?
Thank you so much,
Casey

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Hello everyone,
My name is Casey. I am not diabetic but my father is. He is 64 years old, he has had adult onset diabetes for about 15 years simply from a terrible terrible diet.
By terrible I mean ice cream everyday, nothing but complete junk food like zingers, doritos, fastfood etc. He will not touch a vegetable, except potatoes. He also doesn't get any exercise at all. Shockingly he is thin. He always has been. I don't know how.
He takes insulin injections everyday and he thinks that as long as he does that he can eat whatever he wants. He actually thinks that he is healthy as long as he is thin.
What I really really need is a way to show him the reality of how this disease will affect him as he gets older if he doesn't make a change. I would really like to show him the most morbid examples that I can find. I think that might get his attention.
Do you know any documentaries or websites that might bring him into reality. I don't think I could get him to read a book about it. He would blow it off.
I want my dad to be around for a long time and I want him to be healthy for a long time. I don't know what I would do without him.
Do you have any advice for me?
Thank you so much,
Casey
Hi Casey and welcome to the forum. I think its great that you obviously love your father very much and are concerned for him. Unfortunately, often all we can do is tell the ones we love how much we love them and want them to be healthy and offer support. The rest is up to them.

While your father's bad dietary choices are most likely *not* very good for him, I doubt they *caused* his diabetes. You say he is not overweight which can cause insulin resistance. I know cases of a lot of people that develop diabetes that are not overweight. They simply have a bad pancreas. It is not always the person's fault they develop diabetes. It just happens. My sister has one of the worst diets ever...she eats way too much junk...way too many carbs...way too much processed food and sugar *and* is over weight...but she is not diabetic. Eating too much sugar does not cause diabetes, but it certainly is bad for a diabetic to make too many poor food choices I agree.

Its really hard to judge your father's health status simply from what you have told us. Does he check his blood sugar regularly? I would hope so considering he takes insulin. How high does his blood sugar run? How is his A1c level? Does he see his doctor regularly? Does he have symptoms of any complications?

I think maybe discussing some of your concerns with him and reinforcing that you are worried because you love him may go a long way to easing your mind and maybe will help him to take care of himself better. Often a diabetic *knows* what they are doing is bad for them..but they make poor choices anyway. I myself have been guilty of letting my disease go way out of control because I just didn't want to deal with it.

There are many web sites where you can get info on diabetes and the impact it can have on your life and the lives of your family. Please let us know how he is doing and how you are doing. Feel free to ask whatever you need...there are so many people here that are very knowledgeable and love to help. After all, being knowledgeable about something makes you better able to help your father and can maybe set your mind to rest about some concerns also.

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Hello everyone,
My name is Casey. I am not diabetic but my father is. He is 64 years old, he has had adult onset diabetes for about 15 years simply from a terrible terrible diet.
By terrible I mean ice cream everyday, nothing but complete junk food like zingers, doritos, fastfood etc. He will not touch a vegetable, except potatoes. He also doesn't get any exercise at all. Shockingly he is thin. He always has been. I don't know how.
He takes insulin injections everyday and he thinks that as long as he does that he can eat whatever he wants. He actually thinks that he is healthy as long as he is thin.
What I really really need is a way to show him the reality of how this disease will affect him as he gets older if he doesn't make a change. I would really like to show him the most morbid examples that I can find. I think that might get his attention.
Do you know any documentaries or websites that might bring him into reality. I don't think I could get him to read a book about it. He would blow it off.
I want my dad to be around for a long time and I want him to be healthy for a long time. I don't know what I would do without him.
Do you have any advice for me?
Thank you so much,
Casey
Hi Casey I read your post earlier in the day but wasn't sure how to answer. You know that your Father has a terrible diet. This is something that you would like for him to change. Unfortunately, he is the only one that can make the change. At least, he is covering his food with insulin. Do you know if his blood sugar is under control? When our parents get older, they get set in their ways and habits are hard to break. Let your Father know that you would like to see him stick around for awhile. Tell him that every time that you see him. My Mother is 73 and has very brittle bones. She has broken her hip and ankle in the last 3 years. She also has bad circulation in her feet. I think that she needs to see a doctor at least twice a year, but she claims that she feels fine and won't go to the doctor. My parents don't live together. There was some domestic violence that went on 3 years ago and at 78 years old, my Father found himself in the county jail. He has never had more than a speeding ticket. He is an alcoholic. I sat and watched him get drunk every day for years. I used to beg him to stop drinking, but it fell on deaf ears. I found myself in tears watching him work his way to an early grave. Thank goodness he doesn't drive anymore and has no car and he has no way to get alcohol. I love my Father and do miss him, but my parents could no longer live under the same roof. Given the opportunity, he would pick up a beer bottle in a heart beat. I used to talk to him until I was blue in the face and it didn't matter. Take care and continue to let your Father know how much you love him.

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Hello Casey, welcome! I have a friend in England who was diagnosed with diabetes when she was 12. She refused to eat properly and behaved much like your father. Her father knew what was going to happen to her if she did not stop eating the junk food and overloading her body with carbs. He took her to the diabetic ward at a hospital There she saw people on dialysis machines with kidney failure. There was a man there who was blind and someone who had both of his legs amputated. All of these conditions were due to diabetes and could have been avoided with good diabetes management. What she saw scared her so bad that she took very good care of herself and stopped her bad habits. Now she has been a diabetic for 51 years and is very healthy.

I was diagnosed with my diabetes in 1945. Doctors knew very little about diabetes back then. The only advice given was to not eat sugar or anything containing a lot of sugar. I always followed that advice and did not cheat, but I ate hundreds of carbs each day that were not sugar. I did not know that was the wrong thing to do. When I was in my 40's I deveoped neuropathy in my feet and retinopathy in my eyes. Those conditions are types of nerve damage due to diabetes. Retinopathy can lead to blindness. Diabetes is the leading cause of blindness. I eventually learned I should follow a low carb diet. I am now eating only 130 carbs oer day and exercising every day. I started using an insulin pump three years ago. I keep charts of my 12 blood sugar tests per day and the number of units of insulin I take and the number of carbs I eat at each meal. All of my complications have disappeared. I am 70 years old, I have been a diabetic for 64 years and I am very healthy.

Diabetes is the sixth leading cause of death in the USA. If your father continues to ignore his diabetes, he will probably die an earlier death due to diabetes. When I die I am convinced it will not be due to my diabetes. I may get run over by a truck, but it will not be diabetes that killed me.

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