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My Mother, age 79, has been told by her doctor that she is prediabetic. He did not give her any BG numbers, did not do an A1c, did not do a OGTT, & doesn't seem concerned about it. He suggested that she lose some weight since she had gained five pounds over 6-8 months. He did not suggest that she use a BG meter.

She is woefully ignorant of the condition and in poor health otherwise so cannot do much activity-wise.

How assertive should I be in recommending that she take control of her health, at least to the point of monitoring her BG levels? I know that many doctors aren't at all aggressive in treatment of elderly folks & quality of life matters, of course. She told me plainly that, if her doctor does not recommend using a meter, she has no intention of "poking herself" & making herself miserable. I have pointed out that it is virtually painless & provides lots of useful information, but she had little to say in response. I am the only PWD in the family except a cousin who lives 200 miles away.
 

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Criminy . . . she sounds just like my dad, only she's a lot younger. You can't tell 'em a thing. Ask her if she'd rather pee on a stick? :rolleyes:
 

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I would be really mad with her doctor! But she is the one who has to decide what to do to better her quality of life. My Mom won't even go to the doctor! She has no health problem on record. Her feet are purple and it is obvious she has a circulation problem or something worse but she is so stubborn and I am not going to wear myself out by preaching about her going to the doctor!!
 

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Parents can be frustrating no matter how old we get, can't they?

Perhaps you could get her Gretchen Becker's book "The First Year: Type 2 Diabetes....". I know your Mom's pre-diabetic, but perhaps learning a bit more about the whole thing at her own pace, in private, would relieve some of her denial and anxiety. If you don't already, maybe you can throw in a few extra finger stick tests when you're around her and let her know how you will use the information to control your own blood sugar.

Best of luck with this Barrie - my Dad's similarly stubborn about a few things;).

Jen
 

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You might also get her Jenny Ruhl's book.

I HATE her doctor -- maintaining good health is ALWAYS worth the effort. Heavens above.

How is her cognitive function? I would point her in that direction -- most people are pretty uneasy about developing Alz.
 

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Barrie, I am 71 and I stick my fingers 12 times per day. i have been type 1 for 65 years and i am in good health. With the attitude your mother has, I would have had terrible complications and would have died many years ago.

I would find an endocrinologist (diabetes specialist) and interview him/her befor asking your mother to make an appointment. See what the endo says about the situation. This way you will know if the endo is going to do the testing and prescribe treatment to prolong her life.

Good luck to both of you!

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Criminy . . . she sounds just like my dad, only she's a lot younger. You can't tell 'em a thing. Ask her if she'd rather pee on a stick? :rolleyes:

Is there actually a pee on a stick option? I'm deathly afraid of needles (I actually made a noise when the doctor took my blood, not because it hurt that much, but because I panicked)
I would much rather piddle on a stick than jab my thumb *sheepish grin*


On another note, it sounds like your mother & I have the same doctor. My doc told me I was over the level I should be at, but just told me to cut out certain foods to help me lose weight (I was only .6 point over, & I had eaten that morning).
 

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Is there actually a pee on a stick option? I'm deathly afraid of needles (I actually made a noise when the doctor took my blood, not because it hurt that much, but because I panicked)
I would much rather piddle on a stick than jab my thumb *sheepish grin*
There IS, but it is much, much less sensitive and also the results are delayed by many hours. NOT worth it. Learn to love the stick!

And I DO hope you are using the sides of your fingers!
 

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Thank you all for your input! I just can't understand the mindset!!

I am going to share my books with her & talk with my endo when I go next month. There is a possibility she would consider seeing my doctor. But, as Richard advises, it would be best to get my endo's viewpoint before I make the effort. And, Richard, you are an exceptional 71-year old person in my view.

In the meantime, I have been talking with her about nutrition - real nutrition for PWD, not the food pyramid [email protected] she gets at her doctor's office. Maybe an incremental approach will have an effect.

I tend to be rather assertive (I know none of you would suspect that!) & she is very strong-willed herself, so it will be interesting ...
 

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My 89 year old dad was dx'd a couple of years ago. When he lowered his HbA1c to 7.2 his doctor said he was normal and didn't need to test but once a week and never after meals. He was also told to eat lots of carbs because if he went below 130 he would go hypo and go in a coma. I tried to tell him that wasn't true and he should test a little more, but to no avail. He believes what his doctor told him and I guess I know nothing. He is only on Januvia which I don't think causes lows in Type 2's. It is difficult to give advise to parents. Good Luck, Barrie.
 

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The boomer/elderly parents denouement can be pretty frightening. I wish we didn't all get ill together at the same time. Is this something new? Boomers were expected to have it all, including health, but it looks like boomers are getting ill much younger than the sociologists expected.
 

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I would be really mad with her doctor! But she is the one who has to decide what to do to better her quality of life. My Mom won't even go to the doctor! She has no health problem on record. Her feet are purple and it is obvious she has a circulation problem or something worse but she is so stubborn and I am not going to wear myself out by preaching about her going to the doctor!!
Maybe she's D? My feet were turning purple for a couple years but that all reversed itself upon D dx and getting the bgs down. At least one doctor believes D, circulatory problems, and heart issues are all aspects of the same metabolic disease.

If you can't get her to a doctor maybe you can pump her full of cookies and test her bg?
 
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