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Hi Everyone
This is long and I am sorry.
I am brand new to the forum and I came here to seek some answers from other partners of pwd if possible.
I am an Australian, married mum of two amazing kids, with a husband who has was dx Type 2 in July last year (2013) after going for a pre-employment medical where the diabetes was suspected and further testing confirmed dx. Prior to this I had VERY limited experience with diabetes other than a girl I used to work with many moons ago.
I have come here to find some help and talk with other people who can sympathise (hopefully) with my situation.
My husband was dx in July last year as I said and with consultation with his Dr, Metformin and Glipizide, along with a change of diet and starting exercise between August 2013 and January 2014 we managed to get his HbA1c from 9.6 down to 6.1. When he was first diagnosed his bs monitor was showing a bs of between 14 & 19 on average. So needless to say we were pretty happy with this as was his GP.
In February of this year, as a family, we made the decision to move to a town 4hrs away by car due to health reasons for our children, but I would stay behind due to work reasons and would join them once I found work in the new town. In that time my husband has pretty much completely stopped looking after his diabetes. I must admit though (my bad) that while we were in the same house I was the driving force MAKING him look after it, and as I was the one preparing the meals he ate what I gave him.
And now for the last 6 months that he has been completely “responsible” for looking after his diabetes, he has deemed it “all too hard” and is doing absolutely ZERO about it. Not taking meds correctly, DEFINTLEY not eating right (think frozen, pies, pizza’s, chicken nuggets, oven baked chips, biscuits, crisps, lollies, chocolate, milk flavouring syrups (6 times what is actually recommended), cordials to which he will add extra sugar and maple syrup - you name it - all without very much FRESH vegetables or any fruit).
Normally… I am of the opinion – his body, his problem (yes I know that this means I will eventually need to become his carer), except at the moment he is the sole carer of our children and I am EXTREMLY concerned that he is going to have a heart attack or stroke or DKA because of his out of control diabetes and our kids are going to be the ones to have to call me (a min 5 ½ hrs away by bus IF the stars are in alignment), and tell me their father is in the hospital or dead.
Something no child should have to do and in this case I believe COMPLETLEY preventable.
His last blood sugar (finger prick) test that was completed at the hospital where he is due to have surgery next week was 23.9mmol. (this has been a sustained high – last one prior to that was about 6-8 weeks ago and was 23.1) and he is STILL doing nothing to rectify this as far as I can tell even after the hospital has told him that they won’t operate if it is over 18 on the day.
Our kids are the ones bearing the brunt of this. Every time I mention something about it he gets VERY defensive and tells me to stop nagging, however for the last 6 months I haven’t said anything except “I’m not surprised” when he told me was his bs reading was last week.
High blood sugar for him means an EXTREMLY BAD temper (not violent but still very confronting and scary if you are on the receiving end), he also has PTSD and Asperger’s which only complicates everything when he gets these mood swings and at times it can be as little as a look which will set him off.
I am at the point of quitting my job (I am the sole supporter of our family) and going there – consequences be damned. Our kids don’t deserve this, they don’t deserve to be walking around on egg shells because he won’t look after himself.
He is sleeping all the time (but is easily roused and will rouse with a bad mood), urinating a lot (I am getting ketone strips for him to check with), has lost about 30kg in the 6 months he has been up there but sees it as being a good thing, very bad memory loss (especially short term), vision is becoming blurred (cause just by old age in his mind), he has pretty much constant reflux, cramps in his legs and I have no doubt already has nerve damage in his legs and feet due to numbness all the classic symptoms of high blood sugar but he won’t acknowledged it, he puts all of his symptoms down to old age or tiredness or something else DEFINTLEY NOT caused by diabetes.
So…. I am here to speak with other partners of pwd who may have experienced something similar and to see if anyone has been successful in getting through to their partners and how did you do it.
Leaving is not an option for me before anyone suggests it.
This is long and I am sorry.
I am brand new to the forum and I came here to seek some answers from other partners of pwd if possible.
I am an Australian, married mum of two amazing kids, with a husband who has was dx Type 2 in July last year (2013) after going for a pre-employment medical where the diabetes was suspected and further testing confirmed dx. Prior to this I had VERY limited experience with diabetes other than a girl I used to work with many moons ago.
I have come here to find some help and talk with other people who can sympathise (hopefully) with my situation.
My husband was dx in July last year as I said and with consultation with his Dr, Metformin and Glipizide, along with a change of diet and starting exercise between August 2013 and January 2014 we managed to get his HbA1c from 9.6 down to 6.1. When he was first diagnosed his bs monitor was showing a bs of between 14 & 19 on average. So needless to say we were pretty happy with this as was his GP.
In February of this year, as a family, we made the decision to move to a town 4hrs away by car due to health reasons for our children, but I would stay behind due to work reasons and would join them once I found work in the new town. In that time my husband has pretty much completely stopped looking after his diabetes. I must admit though (my bad) that while we were in the same house I was the driving force MAKING him look after it, and as I was the one preparing the meals he ate what I gave him.
And now for the last 6 months that he has been completely “responsible” for looking after his diabetes, he has deemed it “all too hard” and is doing absolutely ZERO about it. Not taking meds correctly, DEFINTLEY not eating right (think frozen, pies, pizza’s, chicken nuggets, oven baked chips, biscuits, crisps, lollies, chocolate, milk flavouring syrups (6 times what is actually recommended), cordials to which he will add extra sugar and maple syrup - you name it - all without very much FRESH vegetables or any fruit).
Normally… I am of the opinion – his body, his problem (yes I know that this means I will eventually need to become his carer), except at the moment he is the sole carer of our children and I am EXTREMLY concerned that he is going to have a heart attack or stroke or DKA because of his out of control diabetes and our kids are going to be the ones to have to call me (a min 5 ½ hrs away by bus IF the stars are in alignment), and tell me their father is in the hospital or dead.
Something no child should have to do and in this case I believe COMPLETLEY preventable.
His last blood sugar (finger prick) test that was completed at the hospital where he is due to have surgery next week was 23.9mmol. (this has been a sustained high – last one prior to that was about 6-8 weeks ago and was 23.1) and he is STILL doing nothing to rectify this as far as I can tell even after the hospital has told him that they won’t operate if it is over 18 on the day.
Our kids are the ones bearing the brunt of this. Every time I mention something about it he gets VERY defensive and tells me to stop nagging, however for the last 6 months I haven’t said anything except “I’m not surprised” when he told me was his bs reading was last week.
High blood sugar for him means an EXTREMLY BAD temper (not violent but still very confronting and scary if you are on the receiving end), he also has PTSD and Asperger’s which only complicates everything when he gets these mood swings and at times it can be as little as a look which will set him off.
I am at the point of quitting my job (I am the sole supporter of our family) and going there – consequences be damned. Our kids don’t deserve this, they don’t deserve to be walking around on egg shells because he won’t look after himself.
He is sleeping all the time (but is easily roused and will rouse with a bad mood), urinating a lot (I am getting ketone strips for him to check with), has lost about 30kg in the 6 months he has been up there but sees it as being a good thing, very bad memory loss (especially short term), vision is becoming blurred (cause just by old age in his mind), he has pretty much constant reflux, cramps in his legs and I have no doubt already has nerve damage in his legs and feet due to numbness all the classic symptoms of high blood sugar but he won’t acknowledged it, he puts all of his symptoms down to old age or tiredness or something else DEFINTLEY NOT caused by diabetes.
So…. I am here to speak with other partners of pwd who may have experienced something similar and to see if anyone has been successful in getting through to their partners and how did you do it.
Leaving is not an option for me before anyone suggests it.
