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My husband is a type 1 diabetic and has been one for 23 years now since he was 13.
Ever since I met him, he will periodically get extremely upset and depressed about the fact he has diabetes. In the beginning he would have times of saying stuff like he wished he had never fallen off that horse (his diabetes kicked in shortly thereafter). And would say he was so tired of being a diabetic and crying a lot.
He also got angry once about a year ago and punched a hole through the bathroom door. He said this was because he is so angry about his diabetes.
Then a year later he said he hated his job and started screaming and crying about how he just needed to quit and yelled at me and said he sometimes wished he wouldn't be alive. I told him to quit his job which seemed to appease him for a time. It scared me a lot, I told his mom and dad who circled the wagons. I mentioned his depression to endo who said he needed to mention it to our primary care. I got him an appointment with the primary care who put him on a anti-depressant (my husband did not mention his anger issues). I said I thought he needed to see a psychologist, but the dr said let's try the medicine first. He seemed ok after that for a time.
Now he sits at home all day and has made no move to get a job. He occasionally will do some dishes or laundry and mow the lawn, but not a lot more than he would have done while working. He occasionally mentions how tired he is of being a diabetic and acts like I cannot possibly understand (which I don't, and yet I kind of do a little since I have type II)
Yesterday he got angry and was kicking stuff and screaming and again it scared me a bit. He then settled down and acted like nothing ever happened.
I am irritated at his dr for not sending him to a psychologist. His follow up was while I was at work and of course he fibs and says he is fine. He is always telling the dr's what they want to hear so he doesn't have to deal with anything they want him to do extra. I don't think it is entirely normal to be this angry about diabetes but maybe I am wrong.
Anyone else know what I should do next? To me it feels like he has never accepted that he has diabetes and is deeply angry and depressed about it. But it's not like his diabetes is ever going away.
I am tired and stressed trying to care for him and our 1 year old daughter and working and caring for my own diabetes which I am not as good to watch lately because I am so tired.
Any advice would be good.
Ever since I met him, he will periodically get extremely upset and depressed about the fact he has diabetes. In the beginning he would have times of saying stuff like he wished he had never fallen off that horse (his diabetes kicked in shortly thereafter). And would say he was so tired of being a diabetic and crying a lot.
He also got angry once about a year ago and punched a hole through the bathroom door. He said this was because he is so angry about his diabetes.
Then a year later he said he hated his job and started screaming and crying about how he just needed to quit and yelled at me and said he sometimes wished he wouldn't be alive. I told him to quit his job which seemed to appease him for a time. It scared me a lot, I told his mom and dad who circled the wagons. I mentioned his depression to endo who said he needed to mention it to our primary care. I got him an appointment with the primary care who put him on a anti-depressant (my husband did not mention his anger issues). I said I thought he needed to see a psychologist, but the dr said let's try the medicine first. He seemed ok after that for a time.
Now he sits at home all day and has made no move to get a job. He occasionally will do some dishes or laundry and mow the lawn, but not a lot more than he would have done while working. He occasionally mentions how tired he is of being a diabetic and acts like I cannot possibly understand (which I don't, and yet I kind of do a little since I have type II)
Yesterday he got angry and was kicking stuff and screaming and again it scared me a bit. He then settled down and acted like nothing ever happened.
I am irritated at his dr for not sending him to a psychologist. His follow up was while I was at work and of course he fibs and says he is fine. He is always telling the dr's what they want to hear so he doesn't have to deal with anything they want him to do extra. I don't think it is entirely normal to be this angry about diabetes but maybe I am wrong.
Anyone else know what I should do next? To me it feels like he has never accepted that he has diabetes and is deeply angry and depressed about it. But it's not like his diabetes is ever going away.
I am tired and stressed trying to care for him and our 1 year old daughter and working and caring for my own diabetes which I am not as good to watch lately because I am so tired.
Any advice would be good.